tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45677872438502427892024-03-05T06:34:33.214-08:00Black Men Confronting The Lies And DistortionsThe purpose of this blog is to address and expose the the exaggerations, fabrications, distortions and misrepresentations of black men by a minority of black women who frequent the World Wide Web. While these women far from represent the average sista, the web does give them a voice for their demagoguery. Lets show the world just how absurd they are.Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.comBlogger64125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-29143174631723405762011-12-19T19:31:00.000-08:002011-12-20T06:24:38.325-08:00Shouldn't This Four Year Old Child Have Been Well Protected?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgknMTWp1Lms0gb1yX_8wj6rl4IyZIKF9Ux03b_99Nm9sQbtuzwtkVIOFWHMi7_QHSNP3BEcT1DmBFYP6xn04SnhEU7E09jBcO-FvrTK8Ucnw_P3mwUQgB3e575UyVXY93w3DOgv0UcUNEe/s1600/crime.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 216px; CURSOR: pointer" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5688054192341446370" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgknMTWp1Lms0gb1yX_8wj6rl4IyZIKF9Ux03b_99Nm9sQbtuzwtkVIOFWHMi7_QHSNP3BEcT1DmBFYP6xn04SnhEU7E09jBcO-FvrTK8Ucnw_P3mwUQgB3e575UyVXY93w3DOgv0UcUNEe/s400/crime.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgVkGTDIPB160lVMx6XxjmIwd38sdqiE6U51s6wLAcAR6JFOvt583lXd_WRuaJKBdn3XqMkeBD11Vx8gC1HjWZuBVE6VZYeyERzU9DJBPAwO6U72esc43UPbQPq1ALPzt94OPW70gLxYorH/s1600/crime2.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 250px; CURSOR: pointer" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5688053723701104370" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgVkGTDIPB160lVMx6XxjmIwd38sdqiE6U51s6wLAcAR6JFOvt583lXd_WRuaJKBdn3XqMkeBD11Vx8gC1HjWZuBVE6VZYeyERzU9DJBPAwO6U72esc43UPbQPq1ALPzt94OPW70gLxYorH/s400/crime2.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div>According to the BWE/IR fanatics he should have been<a href="http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/">.</a> After all, both his father and his mother's boyfriend are <a href="http://www.chron.com/news/houston-texas/article/1-jailed-1-sought-following-death-of-child-2412460.php#photo-1949803">white</a>. </div><br /><div><br /><blockquote><br /><br /><br /><p>Britni Bereasa Glover watched as her boyfriend beat her 4-year-old son. She<br />did nothing. She later heard the boy complain of stomach pain. She did<br />nothing. The next morning, she found her son, Dustyn Skyler Roff, dead in<br />his bed.<br /></p><br /><br /><br /><p>Houston police allege that happened beginning Thursday night, when <a href="http://www.chron.com/?controllerName=search&action=search&channel=news%2Fhouston-texas&search=1&inlineLink=1&query=%22Michael+Allen+Seaton%22">Michael<br />Allen Seaton</a> beat Dustyn because his mother did not come home for lunch<br />that day. Glover, 23, was charged with injury to a child by omission. Police<br />are still looking for her 21-year-old boyfriend, who has been charged with<br />capital murder.</p><br /><br /><br /><p>Police who responded to a report of a dead child at a home in<br />the 7100 block of Hillcroft on Friday found the boy had multiple injuries<br />and bruises all over his body, authorities said. He was pronounced dead at<br />the scene. </p><br /><br /><br /><p>HPD Homicide Sergeant <a href="http://www.chron.com/?controllerName=search&action=search&channel=news%2Fhouston-texas&search=1&inlineLink=1&query=%22Will+Gonzales%22">Will Gonzales</a> said Glover did not intervene as Seaton assaulted Dustyn Thursday night after the couple got into an argument. Seaton would often watch the boy while Glover went to work at a day care, Gonzales said, and he was upset that she did not return home during her lunch break that day.<br /></p><br /><br /><br /><p>Seaton then allegedly beat the child and left. Keeping silent, Dustyn<br />complained to his mother of stomach pains before sleeping, and the next<br />morning, she found him dead in his bed. "We have no reason to believe that (Glover) assaulted Dustyn," Gonzales said, "but she didn't stop the abuse of her child."Glover remained silent when asked by authorities why she did not<br />intervene, Gonzales said. The boy had different healing stages of bruises,<br />indicating he had likely been beaten for several weeks, the sergeant<br />said. </p><br /><br /><br /><p>Charles Blake Roff, Dustyn's father, said he had been searching for<br />Glover and his son for the past four months after she left with<br />the boy during a visit. At a news conference on Monday, the 25-year-old said he<br />was the boy's sole caretaker until that time and was working on gaining full<br />legal custody of him. The couple is in the middle of a divorce and custody<br />rights had not yet been determined, he said.<br /></p></blockquote></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><div>Heck, according to the BWE/IR crew, they are not even supposed to be getting a divorce. </div></div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com18tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-80489819380013417552011-08-17T10:58:00.000-07:002011-08-17T14:02:54.474-07:00The Wall Street Journal Fix.<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-hNkiV5GtLoIKbRJaBPGTJiAN2yJJEwU6SfJIcnd9c2PR0fr0SMXRrAyPL5wf4esBAex2Wms1J_dCaeVJ6_oPejvWTozv_IyHe2rMX32gCBdY1xvyU3di791ssL2ydRrwcyJ_6QbKVyqX/s1600/beyonceonSNL4.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5641887912308047458" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-hNkiV5GtLoIKbRJaBPGTJiAN2yJJEwU6SfJIcnd9c2PR0fr0SMXRrAyPL5wf4esBAex2Wms1J_dCaeVJ6_oPejvWTozv_IyHe2rMX32gCBdY1xvyU3di791ssL2ydRrwcyJ_6QbKVyqX/s400/beyonceonSNL4.jpg" /></a>
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<br /><div>Just recently, an article published in the Wall Street Journal by <a href="http://www.law.stanford.edu/directory/profile/7/">Dr. Ralph Richard Banks</a> has created sort of a buzz among the various so called “Black Women Empowerment” fanatics as well as a bit of unease between some of them. One of the main ones embracing this article is <a href="http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/">Christelyn Karazin</a>.
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<br />The premise of the article is the idea that if black women ‘date out’ more, it could/would motivate black men to improve in order to compete with the added competition. It’s an interesting premise because historically, this basic premise has been one that the BWE group has repeatedly shunned on the basis that it places responsibility on black women for shaping the behavior of black men.
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<br />But lo and behold, when the idea of black men’s behavior being influenced by black women involves black women dating and marrying non-black men, it is acceptable. It really goes to show how much BWE/IR bloggers are agenda driven.
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<br />Consider that for years, black men have pointed out and complained about the disproportionately strong trend of black women seeking relationships with bad boys. It has long been argued that this trend heavily influences the behavior of black men and has been supported through research under the theory of sexual selection. Even the dreaded Satoshi Kanazawa touched on <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-scientific-fundamentalist/200807/men-do-everything-they-do-in-order-get-laid-iii">this</a>:
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<br /><blockquote>“In reality, however, women do often say no to men. (In my experience, they
<br />always do.) This is why men throughout history have had to conquer foreign
<br />lands, win battles and wars, compose symphonies, author books, write sonnets,
<br />paint portraits and cathedral ceilings, make scientific discoveries, play in
<br />rock bands, and write new computer software, in order to impress women so that
<br />they will agree to have sex with them. There would be no civilization, no art,
<br />no literature, no music, no Beatles, no Microsoft, if sex and mating were a male
<br />choice. Men have built (and destroyed) civilizations in order to impress women
<br />so that they might say yes. Women are the reason men do everything.”</blockquote>
<br />Polow Da Don <a href="http://allhiphop.com/stories/djsproducers/archive/2007/08/29/18499315.aspx">stated</a>:
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<br /><blockquote>“If every Black woman got together and said, "We're not gonna date guys unless
<br />they have PhDs. We're not gonna date guys unless they have a Master’s [degree].”
<br />Guess what? In due time, n****s will stop selling dope and they'll start going
<br />to college.”</blockquote>
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<br />He was attacked relentlessly for this statement. Such a statement has been repeated over and over by black men criticizing black women for routinely sexually rewarding bad behavior, yet black women’s response has overwhelmingly been critical indicating that this notion places responsibility on black women. Yet, as we see with Karazin and others like her, if this basic idea is expressed in a way that promotes black women dating and marrying non-black men, it is quite acceptable. There are more than enough quality black men out there to put pressure on trifling black men to clean up their acts, yet this will never happen until these quality black men begin getting the attention that they deserve.
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<br />Plus, there are the flaws in this argument. One of the biggest ones is the fact that marriage rates are declining for all ethnic groups in the United States. At least 40 - 45% of white women are single at any given moment and 50% of all American women are single. There are a total of 4 million more white women than white men and 6 million more women than men in America overall. So it begs the question of exactly how much success do the IR bloggers expect black women to have competing against those 40% of white women and other non-black single women for the very men who have repeatedly placed black women last on their dating radar?
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<br />The next flaw is the <a href="http://www.rachelstavern.com/uncategorized/pt-1are-interracial-couples-in-it-for-money-irs-and-the-marriage-gradient.html">discovery</a> that the white men that black women marry are on average less educated than the black men that black women marry. Thus, the so-called competition would not be based on personal quality, but instead entirely on race and since no black man can change his race, such added competition would be meaningless. It’s much like the high level of marrying out done by Asian women. Asian American men have outdone white men socially and economically for decades, yet Asian women still marry out at a higher rate than any other group of women. Asian women simply want white men, period and the ONLY thing that Asian men could do to compete is to become white, which is impossible.
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<br />Lastly, history doesn’t support the notion. Since 1980, interracial marriage involving black women has tripled, yet within that same timeframe, the single rate for black women has increased by 20%. Thus, a major increase in interracial marriage for black women has coincided with a major decrease in marriage overall for black women. It is clear that marrying out is no solution. Interestingly enough, one of Karazin’s commenters pointed this out and was attacked and seemingly banned for doing so. Clearly such women are motivated by personal agenda and personal disdain as opposed to truth and reality. </div>
<br />Much of what I state above is addressed in this great <a href="http://www.empowernewsmag.com/listings.php?article=2051">article</a> by Ivory A. Toldson, Ph.D., and Bryant Marks, Ph.D.
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<br />Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com19tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-72759078472585993972011-05-24T13:43:00.000-07:002011-05-24T14:22:25.231-07:00Ciara's "New Boyfriend" according to Sarah<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaq6w-3y6Cb3l4hK9N1wywMigdTNh8Sk1KrFlGnUUVAPvwY5Qf1vGcG0x5wcr_G0Su4gdH__X_om11adc51g4YamhHu9l6VZGM5Qd6yZZ9x66lK168Dc5N1NxN7eowvDLLwOeahmbP_gkr/s1600/ciara_bikini_beach_booty_.png"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 220px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 264px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5610386438021662802" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaq6w-3y6Cb3l4hK9N1wywMigdTNh8Sk1KrFlGnUUVAPvwY5Qf1vGcG0x5wcr_G0Su4gdH__X_om11adc51g4YamhHu9l6VZGM5Qd6yZZ9x66lK168Dc5N1NxN7eowvDLLwOeahmbP_gkr/s400/ciara_bikini_beach_booty_.png" /></a><br />You know, I really have to point this out because I got a good laugh out of it. I was lurking around <a href="http://interracialloveandspicebysara.blogspot.com/">Sarah’s blog</a> and noticed her most recent picture of a celebrity black woman with her new white boyfriend. What she showed was Ciara with her <em>“new boyfriend Amar’e”.</em> I stared at this picture of Ciara on the beach, in a bikini walking by an apparent white man a few feet away from her. I thought that I had gone crazy. Ciara is dating “Amar’e”, yet “Amar’e” is Amar’e Stoudemire, an NBA basketball player who is without a doubt BLACK. The problem is that there are <a href="http://ru-crazy.com/2011/05/21/ciara-on-the-beach-with-her-boo-pics-inside/">several pictures</a> of Ciara and Amar’e on the beach with a few of her walking without him. If you scroll down, you will see that on one, she is shown walking past a somewhat chunky white guy with a hairy back. This is the guy that Sarah has given Amar’e Stoudemire’s identity to. What Sarah did was take one look on <a href="http://popwife.com/2011/05/ciara-rocks-bikini-the-beach-pics/">this website</a> and jump to conclusions without scrolling down. Did she even think to wonder if there could actually be a white man named "Amar'e" or whether the guy on the picture looked remotely like he could be playing for the Knicks?<br /><br />So I began to question whether Sarah is just that absent minded, that overanxious for such pictures, or just that dishonest. Then I recalled that she posted a picture of Holly Robinson Peete with her <em>“new love”;</em> a white man whom she had taken a picture with.<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaeWEe0ZJcUvdM5hFNUfQiVc2g94K3xsK8bUzUurFzXC-hjz_GnrlAYS-RjuGSlf5-yNoMCbo0_-jAimQXHWTvoBuE_gqITCz7laM_I2qCvESDHJWQM78V28CMVOfvOYMzBQo_g8QZp3ko/s1600/Holly+Robinson+%2526+Sweetie.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 271px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 193px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5610387788546551154" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaeWEe0ZJcUvdM5hFNUfQiVc2g94K3xsK8bUzUurFzXC-hjz_GnrlAYS-RjuGSlf5-yNoMCbo0_-jAimQXHWTvoBuE_gqITCz7laM_I2qCvESDHJWQM78V28CMVOfvOYMzBQo_g8QZp3ko/s400/Holly+Robinson+%2526+Sweetie.jpg" /></a><br /><br />Now most of us know that Holly has been married to Rodney Peete for years and they have a family. I looked for any news on a divorce or break-up and found nothing. Then I went to Holly’s Twitter page and read tweets from mere hours before whereas she discussed the current happy goings on between her and her husband Rodney.<br /><br />I later read posts on Sarah’s comments section informing her that Holly and Rodney were still together, yet she REFUSES to take the picture down.<br /><br />So what it comes down to is this. If you are a black female celebrity and you take a picture with a fan, friend, etc. who is a white man or if there is a white man close by you in a picture, that is YOUR MAN in Sarah's mind. The desperation of IR bloggers is incredible. Sarah would take joy in the break-up of a wholesome black marriage to satisfy her agenda, even if such a break-up is only in her imagination.Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com27tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-20288149401779570412011-05-05T12:51:00.000-07:002011-05-05T13:06:07.863-07:00Are Black Women Gold-Diggers?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWqwBF1fyvNXU0Onho15xojo6GB9QveBs7r-EBE682gEJC92qqfK4J4Wm4nOaOF1gw_1Drqj7dVrRZEkMQZHw0DtUQOhQh0s0_8YO85xJGUcxDrhwRsCgeN0Ka1BPqpNZ104IMOFRBTckz/s1600/imagesCAOZNBKS.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 273px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 184px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603322347434379458" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWqwBF1fyvNXU0Onho15xojo6GB9QveBs7r-EBE682gEJC92qqfK4J4Wm4nOaOF1gw_1Drqj7dVrRZEkMQZHw0DtUQOhQh0s0_8YO85xJGUcxDrhwRsCgeN0Ka1BPqpNZ104IMOFRBTckz/s400/imagesCAOZNBKS.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><div>Black women have commonly been accused of being gold-diggers. We hear and read it mentioned in practically every list of complaints leveled against black women in general by black men. Black women and others who disagree with this accusation seemingly have a very good defense against it. They quite simply point out the numerous instances of black women in relationships with black men who have little financially. So who is right?<br /><br />Well I will say that the easy defense against this accusation exists for one important reason; that reason being that the accusation is NOT TRUE. Black women are no more likely to be gold-diggers than any other group of women and probably less likely. Is the accusation a mass fabrication by black men? Are black men en masse delusional on this point? My answer to both of these questions is NO. This statement is not a fabrication nor a delusion, but rather a misnomer.<br /><br />Black men refer to black women as gold-diggers for lack of a better term to describe the dynamics between black women and black men as it relates to finances. Many simply know of no better term and many may avoid the true term due to it being even more incendiary than “gold-digger” (I will state this term later). “Gold-digger” has simply taken on a sort of layman’s definition with regard to black women and in attempting to discredit the label, black women use the most standard definition for the term’s non literal use.<br /><br />So the question is one of exactly what are black men referring to when they call black women “gold-diggers”. Black women are notably great spenders and poor savers. Whether it relates to hair care, beauty products, consumer electronics, brand name clothing, gifts, tithing and general depreciable product spending, black women are leading the way. It is quite often that black women view money as being there for the sole purpose of spending it as soon as possible. This is why single black women have the lowest net worth of any group ($5.00). Of course, this is a generalization and individuals vary, but this trend is significantly more prevalent among sistas.<br /><br />Now as any man knows, women tend to feel that their men are obligated to contribute to their spending habits. Thus, once a woman has depleted her personal resources, she then eyes her man’s resources and if allowed, will deplete his. Resistance by the man often prompts the well known shaming tactic of calling a man “CHEAP”. No man likes such a label and it is the avoidance of this label that causes many men to give in to contributing to their women’s unwise spending.<br /><br />When a man simply doesn’t have the money to contribute to his woman’s spending habits, she then puts pressure on him to get it. She harasses him about demanding a raise, tries to convince him to look for a higher paying job or pushes him to take on a side hustle. Such women will sometimes turn a blind eye to their men’s illegal activities if such activities provide the means by which they can continue their materialistic pursuits.<br /><br />If a man fails to contribute to his woman’s spending habits for whatever reason, the result is almost always friction. He will have little peace and harmony in his life and the chances of a break-up or him being cuckolded rise considerably. Financial issues are one of the top reasons for divorce and financial disputes tend to go beyond simply not providing family necessities and into the realm of not providing for the materialistic needs of a particular woman.<br /><br />Men understand these dynamics and black men experience these dynamics to a greater extent than other men. Black women don’t set their dating and marriage standards around income any more than any other group of women and probably have lower income standards, yet once in a relationship, black women tend to try and draw blood. It is this drawing of blood that black men are referring to as “gold-digging”, but this, as stated earlier, is a misnomer. It’s an odd dynamic and I would actually find it more benefiting for black women to actually gold-dig than to do what can only be described as “blood-sucking” (a term that would probably bring about more anger than “gold-digging”). If black women did more gold-digging, it may serve as motivation for young black men to prepare themselves better for financial rewards.<br /><br />But for some reason, black women are very open to men who don’t have much, yet try to force such men to find a way to provide for their materialistic desires and if such men rise to the occasion, their women up the ante so that no matter how much money a man makes, his woman will try to get more out of him than he has to provide.<br /><br />White and Asian women, on the other hand, tend more to go for the professional guy who will have a fairly high income and they will reap the rewards of this high income WITHOUT trying to push the guy to spend above his means. This avoids much relationship friction while still garnering financial rewards and a more stable financial future for the both of them since they will actually save some money. Such women are actually gold-digging, yet they seem benign because they are not constantly at their men’s necks about spending money. This is why the true gold-diggers are less likely to be referred to as such. Hispanic women tend to, like black women, be open to the low income guys, yet they seem far more content with the simple, less materialistic lifestyle. </div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com28tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-32903974265778636732011-04-04T09:00:00.000-07:002011-04-05T16:57:07.146-07:00Losing the Civilizing Influence<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMs9he2Yg6Zv0M_nHSiXmE-glVFgmA-6HFBHXzNSdViE9udaBqVZTOc2VJUWnY1vDWzGEZwOBr3HLoo_dogiNA2F8ck9XfoDNdvZqyA2jvJLLiTijFud35sABHiBplLbcT-ztADWP6tsWQ/s1600/Black-Women-Fighting.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 220px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5592249198311219826" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMs9he2Yg6Zv0M_nHSiXmE-glVFgmA-6HFBHXzNSdViE9udaBqVZTOc2VJUWnY1vDWzGEZwOBr3HLoo_dogiNA2F8ck9XfoDNdvZqyA2jvJLLiTijFud35sABHiBplLbcT-ztADWP6tsWQ/s400/Black-Women-Fighting.jpg" /></a> <br /><div>A great summary of what was discussed in my previous blog is written in the following <a href="http://www.jewishworldreview.com/0604/hart_out_of_control_girls.php3">article</a>. I think that it is a great read: </div><br /><p><br /><blockquote><br /><p>When girls' civilizing influence turns brutal <br /><p>By Betsy Hart <br /><p>Remember the great Lesley Gore tune, "It's my Party"? <br /><p>In the song, the birthday girl's boyfriend, Johnny, and a party guest, Judy, leave the party at the same time, and Judy comes back wearing Johnny's ring. And so, sings Gore, "I'll cry if I want to, cry if I want to. ...you would cry too if it happened to you." <br /><p>Well, tears were not how one 13-year-old Baltimore girl handled such a "betrayal" at her recent birthday party. <br /><p>According to the Associated Press, when the birthday girl's "boyfriend" kissed a 12-year-old guest on the cheek at the party, the birthday girl's mother was furious, and ordered her daughter to "handle your business." At which point the unfortunate guest, Nicole Ashley Townes, was savagely beaten by six women and girls, including the mother, and sent into a coma. <br /><p>It's tough imagining a Lesley Gore tune coming out of that story. <br /><p>But, it does seem to fit with the "girls gone wild" phenomenon spreading across American culture. According to AP, "Around the country school police and teachers are seeing a growing tendency for girls to settle disputes with their fists ..." It's still true that violence among boys is a much bigger problem than violence among girls, as measured by arrest statistics. But, AP reports, while it used to be the ratio was 10 to 1, now it's 4 to 1. <br /><p>While the surge of violence among girls has been seen primarily at the lower end of the socioeconomic scale, it's by no means exclusively there. Just flash back to the news about the violent "powder puff" girls football game in an affluent Chicago suburb where one group of girls brutalized another group of girls huddled helplessly on the ground, even to the point of breaking bones. <br /><p>So, what's going on? There are about 100 different theories, everything from a more coarse and violent culture in general, to violent women portrayed in movies — think "Terminator 3" — to less religious influence, to more broken homes and fewer moms at home most of the day. <br /><p>Who knows for sure? No one. <br /><p>What we can know is this: When the virtue of women as a group degenerates in a culture, it weakens the culture as a whole and it's a dangerous thing. <br /><p>In every successful society, women are the ultimate keepers of virtue. They are the civilizing influence on the men and the culture around them. They tame the worst appetites of men, whether it be toward violence, sexual aggressiveness and promiscuity, or even just things like laziness or coarseness. <br /><p>The extent to which women degenerate, whatever the reason, is the extent to which a powerful and wholesome check on the culture at large is lost. <br /><p>We've seen this with the sexual revolution, where women have been encouraged to behave as sexually aggressive as men do, even if they lack the same sexual appetite. But, it's the woman who is then left hurting and wondering why she is not married, or at least why some man could have sex with her without loving her or being committed to her (duh). <br /><p>Throughout our culture, as sex has been belittled and cheapened instead of rightly honored, it's coarsened our culture as a whole, and hurt countless hearts of both sexes. <br /><p>Is this all the fault of women? Of course not. And many women do maintain their virtue. But there are enough women no longer meeting their role of being a civilizing influence on the culture that the culture is suffering for it. <br /><p>We may be seeing a similar trend when it comes to violence and young women. If they are truly becoming more "like men" in this area, the culture is being weakened along with becoming even more dangerous. <br /><p>Of course, arguing that women are traditionally the keepers of virtue makes feminists wince. But, they actually argue something vaguely similar, yet wholly wrong. They maintain that if men were more like women, our culture would be a better place. <br /><p>If more men shared their feelings and changed diapers, that would be the answer to our problems, they say. <br /><p>Look, I'm into my husband sharing feelings and changing diapers. But, ironically, it seems instead of men becoming more like women in a sort of feminist panacea, we've seen women becoming more like men to the detriment of all. <br /><p>At any rate, we as women don't need to feminize men. We do need to civilize men. <br /><p>To walk away from that mission is, in fact, to deny our nature. And our culture, including little girls like Nicole Ashley Townes, will suffer for it.</p></blockquote><br /><div></div><br /><p>Now one thing of note, that is not stressed in the article, is the fact that Nicole Ashley Townes and her <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">assailants</span> are all black girls and women. The article makes a strong point in saying that "the extent to which women degenerate, whatever the reason, is the extent to which a powerful and wholesome check on the culture at large is lost", and as we see all in our daily lives as well as in several highly publicized events, there seems to be marked reduction of such a wholesome check on African American culture.</p><br /><div></div><br /><p>In stating this, I and others will inevitably be accused of putting societies burden on women, yet what some wont acknowledge is that a chain is only as strong as its weakest link and while one link does not bear the entire burden placed on the chain, the chain depends totally on that one link to play its part.</p><br /><div></div><br /><p>Placing an important responsibility on women for holding society up does not take away their femininity, but rather enhances it. Women have always controlled the direction of relationships and sexuality. Women have, throughout history, been the choosers while men have been the pursuers an it is women's choices that have shaped men's pursuits. Taking this <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">responsibility</span> from women actually makes them more male-like and is why we are seeing so much more male-like behavior from our women, notably black women. It is why we see women fist fighting more, having more sex partners, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">tattooing</span> their bodies with masculine tattoos, cursing more, going to prison more, etc. </p><br /><div></div><br /><p>It is such common behavior that reduces the pool of women who men view as marriage material and is why so many men today hold such a negative outlook on marriage. The sweet, nurturing and emotionally supportive woman of the past is becoming a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">rarity</span> and such women are becoming the purple unicorn in the black community. What we are seeing more of is this: </p><br /><div><a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/42278079/ns/us_news-weird_news/">http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/42278079/ns/us_news-weird_news/</a> </div><br /><div><br /><p style="WIDTH: 320px"><a href="http://www.myfoxny.com/dpp/news/local_news/queens/worker-hurt-in-fight-with-teens-at-wendys-in-queens-20110124">Vicious Attack On Wendy's Worker: <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">MyFoxNY</span>.com</a></p></div><br /><div><a href="http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2010/12/17/earlyshow/main7159518.shtml">http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2010/12/17/earlyshow/main7159518.shtml</a> <br /><div></div></div><br /><div><a href="http://www.thesmokinggun.com/documents/internet/train-beat-down-video">http://www.thesmokinggun.com/documents/internet/train-beat-down-video</a></div><br /><div><a href="http://www.myfoxorlando.com/dpp/news/seminole_news/112309-Laundromat-brawl-caught-on-video">http://www.myfoxorlando.com/dpp/news/seminole_news/112309-Laundromat-brawl-caught-on-video</a> </div><br /><div><br /><p style="WIDTH: 320px"><a href="http://www.myfoxorlando.com/dpp/news/seminole_news/112309-Laundromat-brawl-caught-on-video">Laundromat brawl caught on video: <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">MyFoxORLANDO</span>.com</a></p></div><br /><div><a href="http://blogs.desmoinesregister.com/dmr/index.php/2010/10/29/one-arrested-after-des-moines-laundry-room-brawl/">http://blogs.desmoinesregister.com/dmr/index.php/2010/10/29/one-arrested-after-des-moines-laundry-room-brawl/</a> </div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com67tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-66111238371215520702011-03-04T15:38:00.000-08:002011-03-04T17:07:19.080-08:00Why Sex Comes Cheap Nowadays<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPfjrfhIciwORXf65JO8-JlhIwE25ksDN-ZQt9_4DbE3_8sqmJot6u5ARnrUNuB9_Er8XOIbwcJFjRJk-Rrn9kRyN0NZnLMMNka0IqQPvfQQ-xXauZh_x0cSxPAZM4JbJVgXWt-VtDHyzR/s1600/black-threesome-bags_design.png"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 378px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 378px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5580393764576011826" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPfjrfhIciwORXf65JO8-JlhIwE25ksDN-ZQt9_4DbE3_8sqmJot6u5ARnrUNuB9_Er8XOIbwcJFjRJk-Rrn9kRyN0NZnLMMNka0IqQPvfQQ-xXauZh_x0cSxPAZM4JbJVgXWt-VtDHyzR/s400/black-threesome-bags_design.png" /></a><br /><div>I had to post this article since it relates so much to what our side has been saying for so long. The interesting part is that this article is not directed as black people, but at the overall population. The BWE/IR bloggers would have you to think that such trends below don't exist among whites and other non-blacks, but as we can see this isn't true. One can say that such trends are simply more intense among blacks. But lets take a look at the article <a href="http://www.slate.com/id/2286240">below:</a></div><br /><div><blockquote><div>Sex Is Cheap<br />Why young men have the upper hand in bed, even when they're<br />failing in life.</div><br /><br /><div>We keep hearing that young <a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2010/07/the-end-of-men/8135/" target="_blank" tools="XslTools">men are failing to adapt to contemporary<br />life</a>. Their financial prospects are impaired—earnings for 25- to 34-year-old<br />men have fallen by 20 percent since 1971. Their college enrollment numbers trail<br />women's: Only 43 percent of American undergraduates today are men. Last year,<br />women made up the majority of the work force for the first time. And yet there<br />is one area in which men are very much in charge: premarital heterosexual<br />relationships. </div><div><br />When attractive women will still bed you, life for young men, even<br />those who are floundering, just isn't so bad. This isn't to say that all men<br />direct the course of their relationships. Plenty don't. But what many young men<br />wish for—access to sex without too many complications or commitments—carries the<br />day. If women were more fully in charge of how their relationships transpired,<br />we'd be seeing, on average, more impressive wooing efforts, longer<br />relationships, fewer premarital sexual partners, shorter cohabitations, and more<br />marrying going on. Instead, according to the National Longitudinal Study of<br />Adolescent Health (which collects data well into adulthood), none of these<br />things is occurring. Not one. The terms of contemporary sexual relationships<br />favor men and what they want in relationships, not just despite the fact that<br />what they have to offer has diminished, but in part because of it. And it's all<br />thanks to supply and demand.</div><div><br />To better understand what's going on, it's worth a crash course in<br />"sexual economics," an approach best <a href="http://psr.sagepub.com/content/8/4/339.short" target="_blank" tools="XslTools">articulated by social psychologists Roy Baumeister and Kathleen Vohs</a>. As Baumeister, Vohs, and others have<br />repeatedly shown, on average, men want sex more than women do. Call it sexist,<br />call it whatever you want—the evidence shows it's true. In <a href="http://www.elainehatfield.com/79.pdf" target="_blank" tools="XslTools">one<br />frequently cited study</a>, attractive young researchers separately approached<br />opposite-sex strangers on Florida State University's campus and proposed casual<br />sex. Three-quarters of the men were game, but not one woman said yes. I know:<br />Women love sex too. But research like this consistently demonstrates that men<br />have a greater and far less discriminating appetite for it. As Baumeister and Vohs note, sex in<br />consensual relationships therefore commences only when women decide it does. </div><div><br />And yet despite the fact that women are holding the sexual purse<br />strings, they aren't asking for much in return these days—the market "price" of<br />sex is currently very low. There are several likely reasons for this. One is the<br />spread of pornography: Since high-speed digital porn gives men additional sexual<br />options—more supply for his elevated demand—it takes some measure of price<br />control away from women. The Pill lowered the cost as well. There are also,<br />quite simply, fewer social constraints on sexual relationships than there once<br />were. As a result, the sexual decisions of young women look more like those of<br />men than they once did, at least when women are in their twenties. The price of<br />sex is low, in other words, in part because its costs to women are lower than<br />they used to be.</div><br /><div>But just as critical is the fact that a significant number of young men are<br />faring rather badly in life, and are thus skewing the dating pool. It's not that<br />the overall gender ratio in this country is out of whack; it's that there's a<br />growing imbalance between the number of successful young women and successful<br />young men. As a result, in many of the places where young people typically<br />meet—on college campuses, in religious congregations, in cities that draw large<br />numbers of twentysomethings—women outnumber men by<br />significant margins. (In one Manhattan ZIP code, for example, women account for<br />63 percent of 22-year-olds.)</div><div><br />The idea that sex ratios alter sexual behavior is well-established.<br />Analysis of <a href="http://www.jstor.org/pss/2780366" target="_blank" tools="XslTools">demographic data from 117 countries has shown</a> that when men<br />outnumber women, women have the upper hand: Marriage rates rise and fewer<br />children are born outside marriage. An oversupply of women, however, tends to<br />lead to a more sexually permissive culture. The same holds true on college<br />campuses. In the course of researching our book <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0199743282?ie=UTF8&tag=slatmaga-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0199743282" target="_blank" tools="XslTools">Premarital Sex in America</a>, my co-author and I<br />assessed the effects of campus sex ratios on women's sexual attitudes and<br />behavior. We found that virginity is more common on those campuses where women<br />comprise a smaller share of the student body, suggesting that they have the<br />upper hand. By contrast, on campuses where women outnumber men, they are more<br />negative about campus men, hold more negative views of their relationships, go<br />on fewer dates, are less likely to have a boyfriend, and receive less commitment<br />in exchange for sex. </div><br /><div>The National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health data offer other<br />glimpses into just how low the cost of sex is for young men ages 18 through 23.<br />Take the speed with which these men say their romantic relationships become<br />sexual: 36 percent of young men's relationships add sex by the end of the second<br />week of exclusivity; an additional 13 percent do so by the end of the first<br />month. A second indicator of cheap sex is the share of young men's sexual<br />relationships—30 percent—that don't involve romance at all: no wooing, no dates,<br />no nothing. Finally, as my colleagues and I discovered in our interviews,<br />striking numbers of young women are participating in unwanted sex—either<br />particular acts they dislike or more frequent intercourse than they'd prefer or<br />mimicking porn (being in a dating relationship is correlated to greater<br />acceptance of and use of porn among women).<br /></div><br /><div>Yes, sex is clearly cheap for men. Women's "erotic capital," as Catherine<br />Hakim of the London School of Economics has dubbed it, can still be traded for<br />attention, a job, perhaps a boyfriend, and certainly all the sex she wants, but<br />it can't assure her love and lifelong commitment. Not in this market. It's no<br />surprise that the percentage of 25- to 34-year-olds who are married has shrunk by an average<br />of 1 percent each year this past decade. </div><div><br />Jill, a 20-year-old college student from Texas, is one of the many<br />young women my colleagues and I interviewed who finds herself confronting the<br />sexual market's realities. Startlingly attractive and an all-star in all ways,<br />she patiently endures her boyfriend's hemming and hawing about their future. If<br />she were operating within a collegiate sexual economy that wasn't oversupplied<br />with women, men would compete for her and she would easily secure the long-term<br />commitment she says she wants. Meanwhile, Julia, a 21-year-old from Arizona<br />who's been in a sexual relationship for two years, is frustrated by her<br />boyfriend's wish to "enjoy the moment and not worry about the future." Michelle,<br />a 20-year-old from Colorado, said she is in the same boat: "I had an<br />ex-boyfriend of mine who said that, um, he didn't know if he was ever going to<br />get married because, he said, there's always going to be someone better." If<br />this is <a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2010/07/the-end-of-men/8135/" target="_blank" tools="XslTools">"the end of men</a>," someone really ought to let<br />them know.</div><div><br />And yet while young men's failures in life are not penalizing them in<br />the bedroom, their sexual success may, ironically, be hindering their drive to<br />achieve in life. Don't forget your Freud: Civilization is built on blocked,<br />redirected, and channeled sexual impulse, because men will work for sex. Today's<br />young men, however, seldom have to. As the authors of last year's book <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0061707805?ie=UTF8&tag=slatmaga-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0061707805" target="_blank" tools="XslTools">Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern<br />Sexuality</a> put it, "Societies in which women have lots of autonomy and<br />authority tend to be decidedly male-friendly, relaxed, tolerant, and plenty<br />sexy." They're right. But then try getting men to do anything. </div><br /><br /></blockquote>The last paragraph is the kicker and pretty much sums up what so many black men have declared before and so many black women insist on denying. Women's sexual behavior significantly influences the behavior of men. This is reality. Women have always been the ones who bring restraint to heterosexual sexual activity which is why gay men have on average three times the number of sex partners as straight men, even in this day of female sexual liberation. It's such restraint that motivates men to achieve and commit in order to have such female affection at hand. Nowadays, commitment and true success are no longer necessary for sex and this is made worse by the low standards and unrestrained bad boy love prevalent among today's women with black women leading the way. </div><br /><br /><div>It is clearly not solely a black phenomenon but this problem is quite notably more intense in the black community. Black women have on average more sex partners than women of other groups in America and based on the words of the experts cited, this directly influences the higher level of average sex partners for black men. Women are the ones most in control of whether sex occurs or not. </div><br /><div>The last paragraph is worth repeating:</div><br /><div><em><strong>And yet while young men's failures in life are not penalizing them in the bedroom, their sexual success may, ironically, be hindering their drive to achieve in life. Don't forget your Freud: Civilization is built on blocked, redirected, and channeled sexual impulse, because men will work for sex. Today's young men, however, seldom have to. As the authors of last year's book </strong></em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0061707805?ie=UTF8&tag=slatmaga-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0061707805" target="_blank" tools="XslTools"><em><strong>Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality</strong></em></a><strong><em> put it, "Societies in which women have lots of autonomy and authority tend to be decidedly male-friendly, relaxed, tolerant, and plenty sexy." They're right. But then try getting men to do anything.</em> </strong></div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com49tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-4037926663469627602011-02-09T06:02:00.000-08:002011-02-09T06:54:34.650-08:00Lies Exposed<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKP7vW_dUvGLmLYbFKevwcwcwD15fvARRtecb7QgZEMN5Jw9scmAaMlYrbotVZwTefPIG9fYM74YNW1_9Tzap5idN2rWl641a8AOE4LiLHuCpHlcBkHbATI0M5fyIsuLeCxV7QRJ94zEr0/s1600/Steve-Harvey-and-Mary-1.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5571700310709256274" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 290px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 390px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKP7vW_dUvGLmLYbFKevwcwcwD15fvARRtecb7QgZEMN5Jw9scmAaMlYrbotVZwTefPIG9fYM74YNW1_9Tzap5idN2rWl641a8AOE4LiLHuCpHlcBkHbATI0M5fyIsuLeCxV7QRJ94zEr0/s400/Steve-Harvey-and-Mary-1.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Well, this just goes to show the levels of lying a scorned sista will go to. I have always said this. When you go to these various IR/BF Empowerment blogs, you get so many claims that, if you really look deep into them, are quite far fetched and questionable. Their generalizations are easily discredited with figures and research (as well as common sense) and I find their claims regarding what happens in their personal lives very unbelievable.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Gina Mccauley recently used the words of Steve Harvey's ex-wife, Mary Shackelford, as another justification for her multiple attempts to discredit Steve Harvey and his two "relationship" books. Of course judging his advice to women on how men think (which, in my opinion is fairly sound advice) based solely on the advice itself is unthinkable to her. She MUST judge the man as opposed to the advice because all to often, women will not accept men knowing more about men than women do. Seriously, many women feel that they can tell us how we think and will dispute us when we tell them how we think.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Steve does not give relationship advice per say. He gives advice to women on how to deal with men. I could accept the criticism more if he was giving advice to men on how to deal with women since that implies that he has had success in doing so, but a man, especially a man who has experienced so much including the ups and downs, is probably the best source of information for women who are trying to figure us out. Unfortunately, MANY women only accept all of their advice on how men think from other women. </div><br /><div></div><br /><div>But back to Mary Shackelford. Here is the <a href="http://www.rollingout.com/insiderohome/ro-today/13157-steve-harveys-ex-wife-caught-in-lie-court-tells-her-to-zip-it.html#">article</a> on the recent revelations: </div><br /><div><blockquote>Well, it appears <a href="http://www.rollingout.com/insideentertainment/the-pulse/12954-steve-harvey-fuels-ex-wife-gate-fire-to-speak-with-cnn-about-scandal-.html" target="_blank" mce_href="/insideentertainment/the-pulse/12954-steve-harvey-fuels-ex-wife-gate-fire-to-speak-with-cnn-about-scandal-.html">Steve<br />Harvey</a> was telling the truth after all. The news arrived in resounding<br />fashion, as a Dallas court issued a temporary injunction forcing Harvey’s ex<br />wife, Mary Shackelford, to refrain from releasing more <a href="http://www.rollingout.com/insidevideo/entertainment/12903-mary-harveys-first-interview-says-steve-should-have-thought-of-their-kids.html" target="_blank" mce_href="/insidevideo/entertainment/12903-mary-harveys-first-interview-says-steve-should-have-thought-of-their-kids.html">YouTube<br />video</a>s or conducting future interviews that disparage her marriage to<br />Harvey.<br /><br /><br />Shackelford released three YouTube videos in which she blasted Harvey,<br />claiming that he left her homeless and turned her son against her. Immediately<br />following the release of the videos, Harvey refuted the claims, vowing to <a href="http://www.rollingout.com/insideentertainment/the-pulse/12841-steve-harvey-and-new-wife-marjorie-pile-on-mary-harvey-defamation-lawsuit-being-filed-.html" target="_blank" mce_href="/insideentertainment/the-pulse/12841-steve-harvey-and-new-wife-marjorie-pile-on-mary-harvey-defamation-lawsuit-being-filed-.html">have<br />his day in court. </a>That day would come in a big way, as the courts found the<br />following:<br /><br /><br />The Court finds Movant BRODERICK S. HARVEY’S relief is granted.<br />Further, the Court finds that:<br /><br /><br />1. Respondent MARY LEE HARVEY was not homeless or evicted from her home<br />and was awarded three (3) homes in the property settlement;<br /><br /><br />2. Movant, BRODERICK S. HARVEY did not take, withhold or turn the child<br />against Responded, MARY LEE HARVEY.<br /><br /><br />3. Respondent, MARY LEE HARVEY willingly placed the child on an<br />airplane and sent him to MR. HARVEY without his knowledge.<br /><br /><br />The court also found that Harvey had awarded his wife $40,000 a month<br />since 2005, until March 2009 when she received a payment of $1.5<br />million.<br /><br /><br />Wow … that doesn’t sound like the life or bank account of a destitute<br />woman. Harvey’s “love guru” status may have taken a hit, but one has to believe<br />that he’s glad to have the truth on his side. The couple will meet in court on<br />March 10, 2011, to address a little matter of contempt of court. –djr<br /></blockquote></div><br /><div>So she lied and lied very aggressively. I was listening to her on the Tom Joyner show expressing these falsehoods passionately. It just goes to show that you can't take the sensationalized, passionate arguments of scorned women at face value. You can't believe the far fetched implications of a Sandra Rose that black women are walking down the streets in fear. You can't trust it when they try to convince the world that black women are living in so much terror and pain. They are most likely doing exactly what Shackelford was doing. They are scorned women who rant and having accuracy in their rants is not a priority. Truth becomes the victim of a delete button.</div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-90394756144722609532011-01-11T09:10:00.000-08:002011-01-12T08:03:28.751-08:00Squares, Geeks and Nerds, Oh My!Over on Von<a href="http://blackconsciousthought.blogspot.com/">'</a>s blog there is an ongoing theme that is an attempt at attacking the commonly expressed criticism of black women’s choices in dating. The criticism is directed at what many view as the strong tendency for black women to be attracted to a certain type of male who is commonly referred to as “the bad boy” or “the alpha male”. This type of male is often broken down into, among others, the categories of “thugs” and “players”.<br /><br />The criticism usually expresses the common repercussions of such a trend. “Bad boys” tend to be less committed to children and relationships, live more risky lifestyles, are less focused and stable, etc. But women often find such guys to be exciting and will defend such choices based on the acceptable idea that “man (or woman) does not live on bread alone” and on the natural evolutionary bases of this attraction.<a href="http://blackconsciousthought.blogspot.com/"><br /></a><br />I believe that most men understand that on top of good character, a man must have some appeal beyond just being a good guy. We understand that the inclination of women to be attracted to dominant, aggressive and even violent males is rooted in nature, but if this is to be understood, then should we not similarly be understanding of the fact that the male tendency toward multiple sex partners is similarly rooted in natural evolution? Yet, male polygamous based infidelity is treated with far more scorn than female hypergamy and the subsequent hypergamous based infidelity that commonly results. Should we not similarly reference the need to move away from base desires for the benefit of developing stable civilized societies?<br /><br />Beyond this, Von and others attempt to defend alpha male/bad boy love by tossing ad hominem attacks at its critics. Her most noted one is implying that such critical men are those who are social misfits and/or are visually unappealing. The idea is that they are resentful of being routinely passed over by the more desirable women and that their criticisms are based on such resentment. With this notion being put forth, I decided to investigate, beginning with an example of an individual who expressed the viewpoint that much of the behavior of men is shaped by the mating choices of women and women should refrain from dating the more thuggish types. This particular young man grew up middle class in a loving two parent home and attended Morehouse College. Here is his <a href="http://allhiphop.com/stories/djsproducers/archive/2007/08/29/18499315.aspx">quote</a>:<br /><br /><blockquote>"American women have issues. Black women are the backbone of our families. If every Black woman got together and said, "We're not gonna date guys unless they have PhDs. We're not gonna date guys unless they have a Master’s [degree].”<br />Guess what? In due time, n****s will stop selling dope and they'll start going to college. It's that simple."<br /><br />"Just like if I want to have all the hoes on the block and be a pimp, I got to get all the women's backing first. Then I can get all the dudes to come to any party I want them to come to. Look at strip clubs. You take all the women out of strip clubs and see how popular the strip club becomes. You tell women to stop dating dope dealers and you’ll see how cool dealing dope becomes."<br /></blockquote><br />These quotes are some of the controversial statements made by Polow Da Dom in interviews. Now let's take a look at this "<em>nerd</em>":<br /><br /><br /><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5560979866161669602" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 250px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 315px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4_e6irz19zMd4Ogu4zVozwUirbteFKpXKFpxjXnYRhHjK46puz86SO9hKq6i2XSiSpT1RaZLvzRmFLERcmQ4Pb2wOBcd4x3lhyphenhyphenv6_CcdRj0HqzjSsaJqoKEWqTQT9TvYhmVNGde87tYe-/s400/polow_da_don_1.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br />Now I'm no real expert on what women find appealing about men, but I will take an educated guess and say that Polow would generally be considered a good looking guy. He quite apparently spends some time in the gym and he seems to me to be what many would call a "pretty boy". I wonder what kind of social life he leads.<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5560979546633725122" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 267px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJo4vyXfoPV1vJPrq0mM7GSugTYbS3puSJTlh58I6LUXO957xmE610LdMheYCcgec5TgvZ4lS-ggNW4aX4pt3sUNDWlR4R2J8sxhtWuWiiCqREOJNTdI566EN-5bXkxmBAK2i0r17ukHDI/s400/producer-melody%252Band%252Bpolow%252Bda%252Bdon.jpg" border="0" /> </div><br /><div>Well, it appears that this "geek" does interact with rather pretty women. Maybe this is a fluke shot. Let's look again:<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5560979104381119618" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 267px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 421px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJWhy0Dh3XOW-nELD2WnKKdppKdHPDi7lIl-_kmsQAEjnkinwcgs3ZF4wuFCkme-atLVE00ibRo3PPirJ5GolKGEab7CAUNtHcdyhoK1okdkVZdVkxjVg8Q3iRmm576bNRCs0vq5iuhCp5/s400/myapolow2.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br /><div>Hmmm. This "square" managed another photo with a very pretty celebrity at some high class event. Has he taken more?:</div><br /><br /><br /><div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5560978631005928482" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 268px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmkA0bHY3v-ePKvR8u1CKGGrpO_EDpx-GAydt1Webg79DTmRynL-02dFhEJLm3rqmyitlq6kF8daia42_OtiB2dAKJIMB3VWYGkfOCdulIX1zWQosucmzZHzqImI7n7lg-BZqXqXZBvqjA/s400/polow-da-don-ciara-500x746.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5560978284569140642" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 267px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj1wc2iuS3Sy9eito14oKFjrzj8H5nYWXOGkd39M_AoCFITxPWYZl4cFaWhc_yyxi7qSfxLFmcE1QZ9sOuHA2WXv-CHKfcoLf-CmzpqpsPo6a-kzFktqPGmdxUn5UvWJCOLNKgcft0oHTEN/s400/actress-kd-aubert-and-polow-da-don.jpg" border="0" /><br />Well, this is odd. I thought that the opinion that Polow expressed was strong evidence that he is ugly, a loser, a geek, a social misfit and a nerd. But the truth is that he is a well know rapper, singer, songwriter and millionaire super producer. As a matter of fact, Billboard labeled him as the number one Hip Hop producer of 2010. This is the same man who purchased a Porche Panamera worth over $100,000.00 as a gift to his cousin Monica to congratulate her on her new album. </div><div></div><div>Even looking at the Black Men Vent episodes on Youtube, I don't see nerds and geeks. None of them are ugly. I don't see social awkwardness. They seem to interact rather comfortably with the ladies they are debating. Some of them have children from previous relationships. What I see are regular guys who put a lot of thought into a particular issue and are very vocal with their opinions. </div><div><br /> </div><div></div><div><object height="385" width="480"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/-_BgrKvvxvk?fs=1&hl=en_US"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/-_BgrKvvxvk?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object></div><div></div><div><object height="385" width="480"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/WFAEWM5BhBk?fs=1&hl=en_US"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/WFAEWM5BhBk?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object></div><div></div><div><object height="385" width="480"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/31a7d1OwKIU?fs=1&hl=en_US"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/31a7d1OwKIU?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object></div><div> </div><div></div><div>Now lets take a look at a nother view of "nerds". Here is an <a href="http://www.the-spearhead.com/2010/03/24/gamers-manginas-extraordinaire/">article</a> from the The Spearhead discussing the reaction to his criticism of a video game service which charges men to play video games with women:</div><div></div><div><blockquote>"The transition of video games from a niche hobby to a mainstream pastime that occurred in the past decade has wallpapered over many of the more sordid realities of the gaming community. <strong>It’s not a stretch to say that most<br />hardcore gamers are nerds, and while not all manginas are nerds, almost all nerds are manginas.</strong> Remember <a href="http://www.the-spearhead.com/2009/10/14/data-and-denunciations/" target="_self">the brouhaha</a> over <a href="http://www.the-spearhead.com/2009/10/09/the-war-on-science-fiction-and-marvin-minsky/" target="_self">Pro-Male/Anti-Feminist Tech’s science fiction article</a> back in October? The hordes of sniveling dweeboids who screamed bloody murder over his piece on blogs, forums, and The Spearhead’s own comment section were doing what<br />they do best – kissing the tails of the less-fair sex in vain hope of a little tail being tossed their way. <strong>Your average gamer is a servile sack of snot who will roll over and beg for a woman who so much as brushes him in the<br />hallway."</strong><br /></blockquote></div><div></div><div>Here is another article deeply critical of <a href="http://www.inmalafide.com/2010/06/16/why-nobody-likes-nerds-and-why-youre-justified-in-hating-them/">nerds:</a></div><div><br /><blockquote>"Nerds are manginas. Keeping in theme with the previous paragraph, a man whose ideal woman is basically a dude with breasts and a vagina is a man who will likely allow women in general to walk all over him. <strong>Afraid of confrontation and used to bowing and scraping, </strong><a href="http://www.the-spearhead.com/2010/03/24/gamers-manginas-extraordinaire/" target="_self" modo="false"><strong>nerds place themselves at the mercy of women</strong></a><strong> in the vain hope of getting laid</strong>. Also, male feminists are overwhelmingly nerds – see pansies like <a href="http://hugoboy.typepad.com/hugo_schwyzer/" target="_self">Hugo Schwyzer</a> and <a href="http://flyoverlibertarian.blogspot.com/2010/05/my-first-banning.html" target="_self" modo="false">Barry “Ampersand” Deutsch</a>."</blockquote></div><div>Here is a <a href="http://freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/07/13/the-economics-of-an-ugly-boyfriend/">comment</a> from someone reading an article related to this topic:</div><div><br /><blockquote><p>"I can’t remember if there was any sort of formal statistical study done, but I do remember reading a story awhile back discussing how nerdy men often end up marrying attractive women (my husband — a rather nerdy but lovable engineer —<br />got quite a kick out the article). Part of the reasoning behind such paring is that these ‘nerds’ tend to be nicer and more respectful to these women than their more hunky counterparts. Of course there was mention of greater success, stability, personality and the like as well."<br /><br />"It would be interesting to see how the woman’s education level matches up with the man’s in these cases. Do these women tend to be higher educated as well, so they have greater preference for men who are on par intellectually, regardless of looks? Or do you get more of the dense trophy wife effect?"— Casey<br /></p></blockquote><br />Now while I don't agree with "nerd hate" (there is nothing wrong with being a nerd), it does make sense that nerds would tend to be more pro-feminist and be more defending of women. Nerds tend to be your classic "nice guys" in the sense that to compensate for their lack of things like swagger, charm, assertiveness, style, etc., they tend to be extra nice to women. They are quick to jump to a woman's beck and call and will defend feminist ideals. They may envy the popular guys who get the pretty girls, but it is typically outside of their nature to be resentful and misogynistic. So in all likelihood, guys who are critical and hard on women are the furthest from being nerds. How often do we see nerdy wife batterers?<br /><br />It would be difficult for people like Von and her cohorts to acknowledge that it is quite possible than those men who are vocally critical of black women's choices do so due to honest observation and being socially aware of how black women's dating choices and other behaviors contribute among other things to the destruction of the black family. Such an acknowledgement would require an open mind. </div></div></div></div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com82tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-91037838425929675182010-12-19T19:06:00.000-08:002010-12-20T10:15:03.006-08:00The Socialization of Black Boys<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgk1fEjTpQ9CJ_MwxwHObUOSjW6y-EkB2R7SBUl2AN8TZXiYIYqrKd-UtW5-qFhqaEKoT4Xj18tAe065hWmP19Sefrwqcn7cmCXcGKvs2WjJnFavKGN0NgBh4rURdYJYJFxY87HsTPrNfEJ/s1600/black+boy.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 266px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgk1fEjTpQ9CJ_MwxwHObUOSjW6y-EkB2R7SBUl2AN8TZXiYIYqrKd-UtW5-qFhqaEKoT4Xj18tAe065hWmP19Sefrwqcn7cmCXcGKvs2WjJnFavKGN0NgBh4rURdYJYJFxY87HsTPrNfEJ/s400/black+boy.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5552812378836628706" border="0" /></a><br /><div>I was reading a very interesting book entitled <a href="http://www.psychohistory.com/originsofwar/02_whymalesaremoreviolent.html">"The Origins of War in Child Abuse"</a> by Lloyd deMause. The book is provided free online at the link. It basically proclaims that the violent behavior exhibited so often by men is not be the result of higher testosterone levels as has been the common belief, but rather due to the childhood conditioning that they commonly receive from their mothers:<br /><br /><br /><blockquote>"The only neurobiological condition inherited by boys that affects later violence<br />is they have a smaller corpus callosum, the part of the brain that connects the<br />right and the left hemisphere.16 The larger corpus callosum of infant girls<br />allows them to work through trauma and neglect more easily than boys.<br />Furthermore, boys who are abused had a 25 percent reduction in sections of the<br />corpus callosum, while girls did not<span style="text-decoration: underline;">.</span>17 This means boys actually need more love<br />and caretaking than girls as they grow up<a href="http://blackconsciousthought.blogspot.com/">.</a> If they do not receive enough<br />interpersonal attention from their caretakers they suffer from damaged<br />prefrontal cortices (self control, empathy) and from hyperactive amygdalae (fear<br />centers), their corpus callosum is reduced further, and they have reduced<br />serotonin levels (calming ability) and increased corticosterone production<br />(stress hormone)<a href="http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/">.</a> All these factors make them have weak selves, reduced empathy,<br />less control over impulsive violence and far more fears than girls.18"<br /></blockquote><br /><br /><br />So as we see, for neurobiological reasons, boys are in greater need of love and caregiving than girls. This brings up the question of whether they actually receive such greater love and caregiving:<br /><br /><br /><blockquote>"The central psychobiological question, then, is this: Are boys given more love<br />and attention than girls by their caretakers in order to help them offset their<br />greater needs? The answer, of course, is just the opposite: boys are given less<br />care and support, from everyone in the family and in society, and they are<br />abused far more than girls, so by the time they are three years of age they<br />become twice as violent as girls.19 Boys’ greater violence by this time,<br />including their propensity to form dominance gangs and to endlessly “play war,”<br />are the results of their greater abuse and distancing by adults and being<br />subject to demands to “grow up” and “be manly” and “not be a crybaby” and not<br />need attachments—attitudes taught by their parents, teachers and coaches. By age<br />four boys’ play is full of provocations that test their self-worth: “At 4 years<br />of age, girls’ insults to one another are infrequent and minor…Boy/boy insults,<br />however, are numerous and tough.”20 The so-called “aggressiveness” usually<br />ascribed to boys is in fact wholly defensive, as they try to ward off their<br />greater feelings of insecurity and hopelessness.21 It isn’t “aggression” males<br />display; it’s bravado—defensive testing and disproof of their fears."</blockquote>So as one might clearly suspect, boys are typically shown less affection and given less support than girls. Such lesser affection probably comes from both mothers and fathers, yet that which comes from mothers is most important:<br /><br /><br /><blockquote>"The mother, of course, is the focal point of this widespread distancing and<br />insecure attachment pattern. High levels of violence and of testosterone have<br />been shown to be associated with poorer relationships with mothers, not fathers,<br />since mothers are the primary caretakers in most families (even in America<br />today, fathers spend only an average of eleven minutes a day with their<br />children).22 It is not just genetics but more importantly maternal environment<br />that Tronick and Weinberg blame when they see from their studies that “Infant<br />boys are more emotionally reactive than girls. They display more positive as<br />well as negative affect, focus more on the mother, and display more signals<br />expressing escape and distress and demands for contact than do girls.”23 This is<br />because from infancy boys are expected to “just grow up” and not need as much<br />emotional care as girls—indeed, boys are regularly encouraged not to express any<br />of their feelings, since this is seen as “weak” or “babyish” in boys.24 While<br />mothers may sometimes dominate their little girls and expect them to share their<br />emotional problems, they distance their boys by not making contact with them and<br />expect them to “be a man.” This begins from birth: “Over the first three months<br />of life, a baby girl’s skills in eye contact and mutual facial gazing will<br />increase by over 400 percent, whereas facial gazing skills in a boy during this<br />time will not increase at all.”25 Boys grow up with less attachment strengths<br />because careful studies show that mothers look at their boys less, because both<br />parents hit their boys two or three times as much as they do their girls,<br />because boys are at much higher risk than girls for serious violence against<br />them, and because boys are continuously told to be “tough,” not to be a “wimp”<br />or a “weakling,” not to be “soft” or a “sissy.”26"</blockquote>Here is more good information on the subject:<br /><br /><br /><blockquote><br /><p>"Perhaps because boys’ needs are greater than girls’, harried and often depressed<br />mothers give them less love and attention from birth. Careful studies reveal<br />that mothers look at and talk more with their daughters than with their sons,<br />spend more time interacting with them, smile more at their daughters than at<br />their sons, direct more orders and prohibitions toward their sons, and use more<br />severe disciplinary styles and more shaming techniques toward them.50<br /><br />If they are ashamed of what their mothers have taught them they are and by their continuing need for her understanding, they “learn to suffer quietly, in retreat behind the mask of masculinity [and] cover up the more gentle, caring, vulnerable sides of themselves.”63 If, of course, they are brought up with love and care, like my sons—and probably like yours—they grow up neither violent nor war lovers. But abandoned and abused boys regularly hide their shame and fears behind a defensive fantasy of grandiosity, dominance and violent bravado.64 The violence they exhibit both kills other Bad Selves (called “enemies”), who like themselves are seen as both angry and weak, plus it provokes the violence of others, inviting self-destructive, suicidal responses. Confrontation, “carrying a chip on their shoulders,” is their defense against admitting that they feel weak, rejected and worthless.65" </p></blockquote>So how does all of this relate to the excessive violence that is so prevalent among black men? Is the lack of affection and support received by black men greater than that of other men. One study entitled <i><a href="http://www.csulb.edu/%7Ekmacd/361prematurity.html">Parent-child Play: Descriptions and Implications</a>,</i> does address this basic idea:<br /><br /><p></p><blockquote><p>Blacks:<br />1) Infants are doted on; much attention to food and clothes.<br />2) But 'most black women believe the children are easily spoiled by too much attention including being held, carried, and praised.'<br />3) Infants are often left unattended for long periods of time. Black infants forced to be autonomous earlier than other groups.<br />4) Teenage pregnancy is tolerated but mother soon becomes disinterested in baby and grandmother takes over most of the care.<br />5) High levels of physical discipline, including 'shaking and spanking, often with belts and switches.'</p> Cuban-Americans<br />1) Teenage pregnancy not sanctioned. High rate of abortions.<br />2) Infants are the center of attention of entire extended household.<br />3) Infants are carried everywhere and rocked a great deal, are scolded infrequently, and are seldom physically punished.</blockquote><br /><br />More details of the study can be found <a href="http://books.google.com/books?id=uRV7qApp1tgC&pg=PA342&lpg=PA342&dq=Comparison+of+Black+and+Cuban-American+teenage+mothers&source=bl&ots=2xj1ZP9Ryz&sig=nsNHCa-mTprNocp0A4p6ct6n5FA&hl=en&ei=EwABTZ-hI4KclgfXxZjxCA&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=1&ved=0CBsQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q=Comparison%20of%20Black%20and%20Cuban-American%20teenage%20mothers&f=false">here</a>. The trends shown by the study applies to both teenage and adult mothers.<br /><br />So this leaves the final question of whether there is a difference between the affection level given black girls and black boys. For a couple of decades, the idea that black mothers love their boys and raise their daughters has made it into black folklore, despite there being no empirical evidence to support this notion. One study finally takes a look at it with the <a href="http://ugrj.ucr.edu/journal/volume2/JamesTelesford.pdf">following results</a>:<br /><br /><blockquote>'While no differences were found in the way that the mother uses control with her children, the mother did appear to have a more warm and guiding-producing relationship with her daughter. This finding runs contrary to the stereotype that the “African American mother ‘loves’ her son, but ‘raises’ her daughter.”'</blockquote><br /><br />So the evidence seems to say that boys are shown less affection and support than girls, black mothers show less affection and support to their young children than other groups and black boys receive less affection and support than black girls. While numerous other factors certainly are among the reasons why black males today show so much excessive violence, evidence does support that lesser attention and affection from their mothers at an early age could play a major role in this.<br /></div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com113tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-76177096656560994042010-12-04T07:16:00.000-08:002010-12-04T18:41:21.111-08:00Response to Von's Rant<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjERTn3Yk0r_tL6ck66DmQ-hNGDDYgfty42MuJ7gH5Qq5GiyVvzXrpAo3hhiAyKk-JhKdZjFSlVMhbT1rmiiFb09D0dJHfrjiXfvovc8UbNS2sII5F2UtiRjBKs29QojKqGlEK-Qp8ahwfb/s1600/AngryBlackWoman.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 190px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5547021560527471378" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjERTn3Yk0r_tL6ck66DmQ-hNGDDYgfty42MuJ7gH5Qq5GiyVvzXrpAo3hhiAyKk-JhKdZjFSlVMhbT1rmiiFb09D0dJHfrjiXfvovc8UbNS2sII5F2UtiRjBKs29QojKqGlEK-Qp8ahwfb/s400/AngryBlackWoman.jpg" /></a><br /><div>Well, I guess will have to respond to idiocy. The profane and unladylike blogger known as Von has <a href="http://blackconsciousthought.blogspot.com/2010/12/dedicated-to-fool-calling-himself-rocky.html">responded</a> to my previous post with the usual insults, straw man arguments, false accusations, etc. In her attempt to try and seem intelligent, she doesn't realize how dumb she seems. Here is what she says:</div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div><br /><br /><blockquote>Rocky likes to cite old studies with small sample sizes and random blogs with<br />little validity/credibility in his comments and blogs. This is when he's not<br />using SURVEY results as if they hold some magic key to more creditable data that<br />one would find in a scholarly database such as JSTOR. He gives no thought at all<br />to the source of the study/blogs, sample size, age of the study, demographics of<br />the study, or any of the other stuff they teach you in Data & Research<br />analysis in college. He does this in an effort to IGNORE real numbers and<br />statistics that can't be refuted. He also does this in an effort to IGNORE<br />decades of continuous research from African American social scientist that go<br />against his ideas about black men.</blockquote></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div>This is comical. I presented the research of <a href="http://web.missouri.edu/~gearyd/">this man</a> in the blog post that she is ranting about. I'll take the research of a trained and experienced PH.D over the rantings of an imbecilic blogger who provides NOTHING in the realm of data to counter any of the data I produce. Her data is her own proclaimed observations. So basically she says that peer reviewed research takes a back seat to what she allegedly sees with her "own eyes" (which are probably fabricated observations). She claims all of this research by African American social scientists that contradict me, yet she provides none of them. If she new anything about JSTOR, she would know that Rebekah Levine Coley's work IS on JSTOR and her research has been described as "comprehensive". I have presented Coley's work and her work was presented on dingbat's blog. I'm quite sure that she is feeling quite the fool she is now.</div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div><a href="http://www.jstor.org/pss/1132081">http://www.jstor.org/pss/1132081</a></div><br /><br /><div><a href="http://www.jstor.org/pss/3599997">http://www.jstor.org/pss/3599997</a></div><br /><br /><div><a href="http://www.jstor.org/pss/3599896">http://www.jstor.org/pss/3599896</a></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div><br /><br /><br /><blockquote>On his blog he didn't bother to address the actual post, For My Critics: If You<br />Have A Better Solution Bring It ( <a class="aptureLink snap_noshots" href="http://blackconsciousthought.blogspot.com/2010/11/for-my-critics-if-you-have-better.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+Blackconsciousthought+%28Von%27s+Black+Consciousness%29" aptureized="true" rc="24">here</a>). Instead he did what I would expect from a<br />deflector: He nitpicked his argument while attacking me. He can't argue my<br />points so he decides to assassinate what he assumes is my character with<br />no evidence to support his bullshit. Let's get to it....</blockquote></div><br /><br /><div>Hey, I can come to you blog and go word for word against you. Oooops. I forget. We would have two exchanges and your cowardly behind would block me from posting because you couldn't take the heat.<br /><a style="MARGIN-BOTTOM: 1em; FLOAT: left; CLEAR: left; MARGIN-RIGHT: 1em" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPXcwgM9wJciD0CAbU3U1iQRCKodHQRJHpIW4BhT_rAIFw1IggrJA_BBKudHU0sQPvNxSVQ_5jirYS30e35J0T82N4xi8pJkQvg4YesPOEFfly6nZzACPdeDxg8jGywaeXpd1CFPTnzYQ/s1600/Picture+4.png" imageanchor="1"></a><br /><br /><br /><blockquote>Ummm.... I guess "Rocky" (who suffers from selective reading...like most<br />hypersensitive black men that respond in the way he did) missed this statement<br />from that post....<br />I got nothing but love for the REAL "good" black men who<br />are handling their business (that includes actually being faithful, loving ONE<br />woman, and making her your wife)... The key word in that statement is<br />REAL. We got fakes and frauds in the black male population, but people like<br />Rocky like to ignore this reality and simply focus on a black man being<br />"productive" as proof of his "goodness".</blockquote></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div>Sorry. That little bone you attempt to throw does not change the fact that you are attempting to establish "REAL good black men" as minuscule in numbers as shown by how you specifically declare "MOST" so-call good black men to be snakes in the grass. Even David Duke has said that there are some blacks that he has a lot of respect for. Does that statement make him a non-racist. No. Just as your statement doesn't make you anything other than what you actually are.</div><br /><br /><div>There are fakes and frauds in every population including the black female population and I never said that being productive is proof of goodness. I disputed your notion of MOST productive black men being fakes and frauds.</div><br /><br /><div><br /><br /><blockquote>I would like to know what makes "Rocky" think a man is above evil simply because<br />he is productive?<br />??<br /></blockquote></div><br /><div>Your Straw Man has been addressed above.</div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div><br /><blockquote>The part of my blog you decided to nitpick didn't have much of anything to<br />do with black men not "seeking a wife" as you put it, Rocky.<br /><br /></blockquote><br /><div></div><br /></div><br /><div>Seems like backtracking to me:</div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><div><br /><blockquote><br /><br /><p></p><br /><blockquote>"Where the hell are these so-calledgood black men when their female<br />counterparts are seeking marriage?"<br /></blockquote><br /><p><br /><div></div><br />Instead it had to do with self-proclaimed "good black men" being anything but good. It had to do with black men claiming to be one thing but turning out to be no better than the Pookie and Ray-Rays they hold themselves so high above. It had to do with self-proclaimed "good" black men USING women instead of being true stand up good men. Your deflection here is amusing because it shows how far out the box people like you will take things to supposedly prove something incorrect. You have no defense for this behavior and I'm certain you have witnessed it at some point in your life.<br /><br /><p></p></blockquote></div><br /><br /><div>No, it had to do with you proclaiming MOST productive black men as being this way. It's a lie and a distortion that I am tossing right back into your face and you respond with insults and nothing of substance. Typical.</div><a style="MARGIN-LEFT: 1em; MARGIN-RIGHT: 1em" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmORkZeD35ssNQWtfV27RnDwbgQjfYe0RrbQZuQp8I2SGdy4LZuftSzETzs3H03uJGYzt3ViDNqPNlFMIOIlqInMgVNcDA0jAk-rUGRLgpkdG6J84cQzfL7LdHZZ0iF-a6xfz_b3IN_90/s1600/Picture+7.png" imageanchor="1"></a><br /><br /><div><br /><br /><blockquote>I would like one of my readers that has followed this blog for some time to<br />point out to me where I have EVER placed an emphasis on education and income for<br />a woman to pull a man. Show me where I have EVER stated that a woman is entitled<br />to a man simply because she is educated/professional/ and making bank...I'll<br />wait....<br /><br /></blockquote><br /><div></div><br /></div><br /><div>No one proclaimed that you place such emphasis in your blog. I said that nuts like you often think that being professional and educated automatically makes a woman a catch because that commonly makes a man a catch. In other words, you fall into a group of women who feel that female professional success should be a male draw as male professional success is a female draw. It has nothing to do with what has been stated in your blog.</div><br /><br /><div><br /><br /><br /><blockquote>This fool is acting like he knows me when clearly he has no idea.</blockquote><br /><div></div><br /></div><br /><div>I know your type.</div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div><br /><blockquote>The black race is the only race I know of that expects the WOMEN to CONTROL the<br />way MEN behave instead of the men just having some sense of MORALITY.</blockquote></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div>This is a common falsehood pulled out of the rear ends of women such as yourself who promote black female victimism. If you have read any reasonable amount of comments from black men, you will know that one of the most common complaints is directed at black women who hook up with thugs and hoodlums under the guise of "changing them". This is quite different from the clear cultural impact of the continued sexual rewarding of bad behavior. If you had any degree of intelligence, you would see that no one is talking about any one or more women being responsible for changing the behavior of individual grown men. We are talking about a cultural impact that contributes strongly to promoting the development of men who practice such bad behavior. It has been shown in research and the common sense that you lack prevents you from understanding this.</div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div><br /><blockquote>The sad reality...a lot of black men's greatest asset is their dicks. They<br />don't have anything else to show for their manhood except it. The bedroom is the<br />one place they feel superior compared to other races of men (need proof? <a class="aptureLink snap_noshots" href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2000/apr/13/gender.uk1" target="_blank" aptureized="true" rc="43">Click here</a>). No matter what black women do these<br />individuals will find a way to have sex. So the idea that black men will change<br />if the black women they get down with stop "rewarding" them with sex is<br />bullshit. Some black men on my blog have even admitted as such....<br /><br /></blockquote><br /><div></div><br /></div><br /><div>So are black women's vaginas their greatest assets? As you can see, <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/19374216/ns/health-sexual_health/">black women are the most promiscuous women</a> and the difference between them and white women in promiscuity is almost identical to the difference between black men and white men.</div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div><br /><blockquote>Bottom line: It's not on the woman to change a man's behavior (because she<br />can't change him)...the onus is on him. He has to WANT to do better. The notion<br />that black men sell drugs, become thugs, and deviant to get with black women<br />goes against everything we know about the lifestyle from sociologist and from<br />these individuals themselves. Every drug dealer I've ever encountered has cited<br />four things as his motivation to become a thug/drug dealer:<br />Easy/quick money<br />and plenty of it (or greed).<br />Poverty<br />Inability to secure adequate<br />employment.<br />Car, clothes, and the finer things in life.<br />Sociologist have<br />backed up this mindset in their analysis. In every "hood flick" I have watched,<br />produced by a BLACK MALE, the motivation for the drug dealer was money and<br />material things. NEVER once have I heard a single drug dealer say he started<br />selling drugs to get women or get laid. NEVER. In fact, these individuals<br />subscribe to a "Money over hoes" mentality or "Get money...fuck hoes." Women<br />just seem to enter the picture at some point. They are an afterthought. They<br />have nothing to do with black men's actual motivation to sell drugs or become<br />thugs. Any type of "sexual reward" from women is an afterthought for most of<br />these individuals who are driven more so by the factors listed above.<br /></blockquote></div><br /><div></div><br /><div>So sex is not a major motivation for getting money? Right?<br /></div><br /><div>Again with her alleged "personal experiences" and now we have "hood flicks" taking priority over research. Such comedy. <a href="http://books.google.com/books?id=AO17FzzmTl8C&pg=PA268&lpg=PA268&dq=For+instance,+a+recent+study+by+Colorado+anthropologists+Craig+Palmer+and+Christopher+Tilley+suggests+that+the+formation+of+young+male+gangs,+with+all+the+associated+viciousness+and+violence,+may+be+driven,+partly,+by+reproductive+competition:+sexual+access+to+females.++By+tracking+a+sexually+transmitted+disease+outbreak+in+Colorado+Springs+during+the+early+1990s,+they+found+that+gang+members+not+only+achieved+a+kind+of+power/money+status+within+their+community,+they+had+an+unusually+high+number+of+female+partners,+compared+to+the+nongang+members+involved+in+the+outbreak.&source=bl&ots=xuxrTpx7Fj&sig=yQvt9ebbC1VComX1FFiNFGPZUAM&hl=en&ei=fPH6TPSGJ4WClAfxyuW_DA&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=1&ved=0CBMQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q=For%20instance%2C%20a%20recent%20study%20by%20Colorado%20anthropologists%20Craig%20Palmer%20and%20Christopher%20Tilley%20suggests%20that%20the%20formation%20of%20young%20male%20gangs%2C%20with%20all%20the%20associated%20v">As for backing up this mindset:</a></div><br /><br /><div><br /><em>"For instance, a recent study by Colorado anthropologists Craig Palmer and Christopher Tilley suggests that the formation of young male gangs, with all the associated viciousness and violence, may be driven, partly, by reproductive competition: sexual access to females. By tracking a sexually transmitted disease outbreak in Colorado Springs during the early 1990s, they found that gang members not only achieved a kind of power/money status within their community, they had an unusually high number of female partners, compared to the nongang members involved in the outbreak."</em></div><br /><div><em></em></div><br /><div>This is so easy.</div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com98tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-22677807467120744592010-12-01T08:20:00.001-08:002010-12-01T21:22:13.160-08:00"Black Unconscious Thought"Here is an <a href="http://blackconsciousthought.blogspot.com/2010/11/for-my-critics-if-you-have-better.html#disqus_thread"><span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">excerpt</span></a> from the the black female blogger known as "Von", who basically is a profanity spewer whose blog quite commonly includes black female <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">victimism</span> and black male bashing.<br /><br /><blockquote>What about them? Where the hell are they when the “bad” black men are fucking up<br />the community? Where the hell are they when shit is popping off and black women<br />and children are dodging bullets in the neighborhood or trying to protect<br />themselves from rape or some other bullshit? Where the hell are these so-called<br />good black men when their female counterparts are seeking marriage? I’ll tell<br />you where MOST of the so-called good black men are: They are off somewhere<br />taking advantage of their position sexing up every damn woman (and possibly man)<br />they come in contact with ( <a href="http://blackconsciousthought.blogspot.com/2009/12/black-men-your-dick-should-not-be-your.html">here</a><br />and <a href="http://blackconsciousthought.blogspot.com/2010/10/bullet-i-dodgedthank-you-gawd.html">here</a>).<br /></blockquote><br /><br /><blockquote>Most of the so-called good black men are wolves in sheep’s clothing. On paper<br />they look real nice/appealing, but once you dig a little deeper you realize just<br />how whorish and trifling they are. They are no better than the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">Pookies</span> and<br />Ray-Rays they try to pull rank over. More often than not these so-called good<br />black men have a little money, a decent job, and some education. This is the<br />MAIN reason they walk around feeling special. However, instead of being stand up<br />men (or REAL good men) and seeking a wife, they take advantage of their low<br />numbers and the high number of single black women. So, I say FUCK THEM. I can’t<br />see myself being allies with these so-called good black men because I don’t<br />respect or trust them.<br /></blockquote><br /><br /><blockquote>Finding a true stand up black man is like finding a needle in a haystack. Great<br />if you find one (I count my blessing daily) not the end of the world if you<br />don’t find one (my life will keep moving with or without a man...I love my soon<br />to be husband dearly but I'm not going to lay down and die if things go south).<br />I got nothing but love for the REAL "good" black men who are handling their<br />business (that includes actually being faithful, loving ONE woman, and making<br />her your wife), but let’s not act like those individuals are the majority or<br />even half of the African American male population. There <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">aren</span>’t enough of these<br />men to go around. These individuals cannot take up the slack for all the other<br />fucked up black men. Black folks need to concede to this reality (which helps my<br />case).<br /></blockquote><br /><br />Now what this is a prime case of is the enormous difficulty women like her have in giving black men any credit. She can’t comfortably claim that all or most black men are uneducated street thugs, so she must find a way to degrade those who are productive. Thus, she eliminates any sense of them being of quality by declaring them to be worthless simply because they are not “seeking a wife”. Of course, not “seeking a wife” as she puts it is actually a case of these men not marrying the first black woman each of them encounters.<br /><br />The reality is that the vast majority of black men do plan to marry at some point and are always open to it when and if they meet the right women. What fails to do and what those of her type fail to do is to acknowledge that most black women today are not very appealing from the standpoint of marriage. Yes, there are plenty of very sexy black women with desirable bodies and faces; more than other groups in my opinion. There are many who are very fun to be around. The problem is that it takes far more than that to be considered marriage material. Many of our women lack the sweetness men like and instead exude course personalities that border on masculine while readily obtaining masculine tattoos and discarding any sense of ladylike behavior. Many take pride in being loud and using profanity. Many black women are very pugnacious and give off the impression that a life with them would be life lacking in harmony. Men don’t mind a challenge when chasing tail, yet we don’t want to have to be challenged daily by our wives. We don’t want to constantly be pressured to please a woman who cannot be pleased. We don’t want a woman who can see no other use for a dollar other than to spend it (which is why the average single black woman has a medium net worth of $5.00). When a man marries a woman, what belongs to him tends to belong to her while what belongs to her remains hers. Thus, a man is expected to contribute to the spending habits of his wife and women who are irresponsible with money will be irresponsible with their husbands’ money.<br /><br />And let’s face it. Studies have shown that a woman’s marriage possibilities decline as her weight goes up and one can easily see a direct relationship between black women’s general weight problems and their inability to get husbands.<br /><br />Yet, women such as Von treat being educated and having a profession as all a black woman should need to get a husband (and most are actually not highly educated nor professionals). This is a prime example of black women trying to place their points of view into the heads of men. Women desire professional men because women place priority on men who have money. Men don’t place nearly that amount of priority on women’s earning potential. Thus, being educated and professional is low on the list on what men seek in a wife. We want good looks, a sweet personality, common sense and a positive attitude. We don’t want the cynicism and truculence so many black women are socialized to have.<br /><br />THIS IS WHY SO MANY OF US AVOID MARRIAGE.<br /><br />As far as what the “good” black men are doing about the “bad” black men, I would challenge her to tell us exactly what good men are supposed to do. A man’s ultimate responsibility is to his family. His responsibility is to protect and provide for his wife and children and to use his influence to guide them. How exactly does putting them and himself in jeopardy by confronting thugs and drug dealers fit in with protecting his family? Would it not be stupid to start a war against drug dealers and gang members so that they can vengefully break into your house and rape your wife because you were “snitching” to the police or trying to mess up their business? A good man tries to build up his finances so that he can move his family out of that situation. Otherwise, he does what he can to protect them and this involves not drawing the attention of thugs to himself so as to endanger his life and the well being of his family. She even contradicts herself when she says:<br /><br />“These individuals cannot take up the slack for all the other fucked up black men.”<br /><br />She can’t even remain consistent. According to her earlier statement, not being able to “take up the slack for all the other fucked up black men” would eliminate them from the category of “good black men”. How can they not be confronting the bad black men while at the same time trying to “pull rank” on the “<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">Pookies</span>” and “Ray-Rays” ? One should at least try to remain consistent within their one post.<br /><br />In reality, community activists fill practically every black community. It is not hard to find black men volunteering time to try and help steer youth in the right direction. There are many black men voluntarily coaching youth sports leagues. There are plenty of black men working in community centers. But since they are not confronting drug dealers in suicidal fashion, they are not good men. Amazing.<br /><br />The greatest way to get rid of bad black men is to stop rewarding them sexually. The worst street thugs and players routinely attract the attention of some of the most desirable women in the community. Much of what men do is for the purpose of attracting women so if a community is filled with drug dealers, hoodlums, gang members, etc., one can attribute this greatly to the number of women who find them appealing. What should be doing is telling the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">Latifahs</span> and <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-error">Kameishas</span> of the world to stop their thug-love.<br /><br /><a href="http://mensnewsdaily.com/2010/05/31/why-men-compete/">Check this out: </a><br /><br /><br /><blockquote>To get to the root of male-on-male violence, we need to take a closer look at<br />human sexuality and human sexual selection. We all know that women are the<br />ultimate selectors in the sexual game (and if you don’t know that, then go ask<br />ten different married women who made the ultimate selection). The facts are<br />pretty straightforward: Women ovulate once a month, and a pregnancy takes nine<br />months during which you become increasingly immobilized. Men, on the other hand,<br />produce millions of sperms each hour, and are not physically affected at all<br />while they are waiting to become fathers. Who has more reason to choose their<br />sexual partner carefully, men or women? Who is the buyer and who is the seller<br />in the sexual market?<br />What this means is that men have always had to work<br />hard in order to prove their worth to women. In fact, the competition between<br />men has been so fierce that only half as many men as women have passed on their<br />genes throughout history, according to a <a href="http://mbe.oxfordjournals.org/cgi/reprint/21/11/2047">research report from<br />2004</a>. This kind of competition to get access to sex and to have the ability<br />to pass on your genes has never been a situation that women have needed to face,<br />and for the most part women simply fail to understand this aspect of being a<br />man.<br />Men will compete in whatever ways are available to reach the top of the<br />food chain, and be able to provide for women. In a civilized society that will<br />usually mean constructive behaviors such as working hard and becoming a well<br />respected person. In an uncivilized society, which has been the case through<br />most of history, men will instead resort to violence towards other men, to fend<br />off the competition. Why are so many women attracted to bad boys and even<br />prisoners? Well, during most of human history that kind of behavior from men was<br />an effective way to be respected by other men and therefore rise to the top of<br />the food chain.<br />Male violence is therefore the end result of a dance in<br />which both women and men participate. Women select the most suitable men, men<br />compete to be chosen (using violence if needed), women again select the most<br />suitable men (regardless of whether they used violence or not to become<br />suitable), men compete to be chosen… On and on it goes. </blockquote><a href="http://mizzouweekly.missouri.edu/archive/2010/31-28/darwins-sexual-selection-theory-best-explanation-for-gender-differences/index.php">Here is more:</a><br /><br /><blockquote>“The more men have to offer, the more valuable they become to women as a<br />reproductive resource,” <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_7" class="blsp-spelling-error">Geary</span> says. “For this reason, men in all cultures are<br />highly motivated to attain social status and control of culturally significant<br />resources. Male-male competition is about making themselves attractive to women<br />but the competition also can lead men to compete in lethal ways to gain control<br />of social resources.”<br /></blockquote>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com50tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-68341589830679009582010-11-12T14:22:00.001-08:002010-11-15T12:46:53.997-08:00Even The President Has To Take The Fault<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgOxNjd12-5fvslAIw2J5FkkkzhGo3pUhBRgUj5jXhtnlITJFKwrlpPyWS5DzkstErSzrLLSeJrfpITX_u_LKl7pwcC5Y8zz-ofWpvCBDWtLbyN822f5h2eN7j9t6hXQj7E_3AbjrbBXuDE/s1600/michelleobama.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5539878104720149106" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 315px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 275px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgOxNjd12-5fvslAIw2J5FkkkzhGo3pUhBRgUj5jXhtnlITJFKwrlpPyWS5DzkstErSzrLLSeJrfpITX_u_LKl7pwcC5Y8zz-ofWpvCBDWtLbyN822f5h2eN7j9t6hXQj7E_3AbjrbBXuDE/s400/michelleobama.jpg" border="0" /></a> I have a lot of respect for First Lady Michelle Obama. She seems to be a woman of class and elegance, yet this statement shows that she is not unique in all of her perspectives and does subscribe to at least some of the idiosyncrasies common with women. <a href="http://www.monstersandcritics.com/news/southasia/news/article_1597446.php/Obama-has-to-say-sorry-first-at-home">In response</a> to a question of who apologizes first when she and The President have an argument she says:<br /><br /><br /><em>'I always wait for the president to say sorry because I am a woman,'</em><br /><br />This statement goes a long way in showing the modern dynamic not only common with black relationships, but common with relationships in general. Women expect certain treatment for no legitimate reason so they resort to the “chivalry” card, even if “chivalry” does not even apply.<br /><br />I am not familiar with a man apologizing first falling under the umbrella of chivalry. What this shows is the tendency to try and create an atmosphere of automatically giving in to the whims of women and in this case, using it as a way to facilitate the strong trend for black women to not take fault for anything.<br /><br />Logically, one would conclude that the person who generally apologizes first is the person who is in the wrong. By saying that your husband always has to apologize says that you always have to be right. This mentality prevents black women from any sense of self-reflection. They often don’t see fault within themselves and when they do, they attribute those faults to outside forces. They blame their excess weight on their children, job schedule, etc. They blame their bad relationships on the men they choose to have relationships with. They blame their single status on the men around them. They blame their status as single mothers on the fathers of their children. They exclude any blame on that which they have the most control over and that is them themselves. Thus, nothing ever changes. They can’t change the behavior of the people around them to compliment their character, they can’t change normal functioning of society around them and they refuse to change or alter themselves.<br /><br />When this happens, they resort to bitching. They verbally lash out at the world around them including the men they interact with, black men. They make anti-black male blogs, proclaim that there are no good black men, try to use white men and the notion of interracial dating as some type of means of payback, criticize white women, etc. This is why the IR bloggers are strict about moderation. They don’t want their faults thrown at them because doing so tosses a monkey wrench in their need to point the finger at everyone but themselves.<br /><br />Then they resort to straw man arguments. When they are advised to take responsibility for themselves, they treat it as if folks are asking them to take all responsibility for the black community. Simply asking them to stop sexually rewarding thuggish behavior in men, not allow themselves to be impregnated outside of wedlock, not be so pugnacious, put some priority on keeping your man happy, etc. is treated as placing the burdens of society upon them. Studies have shown that black men participate in housework and childcare more than any other group of men whether the wife works or not, yet you have the IR bloggers declaring black women to be the mules of the black community. If they take the true informal definition of “mule” (somebody regarded as stubborn or intractable), they may have a point, but the definition that they apply to the word actually does not apply.Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com46tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-75888030065718647972010-09-13T06:19:00.000-07:002010-09-13T06:43:35.947-07:00The Yvonne Hiller Rampage<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhvyo2eUA4sq2N8Ql-AuN4NOv7Gq2RqpdselnhD0U-8r1XdtyyaSotKU-qvCGCS64X2BpIb4jBBqH7d-eHosjRsyOYBHDGtQWVsPpSpvvsP0a1qcu8f-o1bcyA8WKZzFo8A1X-tvNDxXcxv/s1600/Yvonne-Hiller.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5516389099493238322" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 300px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 225px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhvyo2eUA4sq2N8Ql-AuN4NOv7Gq2RqpdselnhD0U-8r1XdtyyaSotKU-qvCGCS64X2BpIb4jBBqH7d-eHosjRsyOYBHDGtQWVsPpSpvvsP0a1qcu8f-o1bcyA8WKZzFo8A1X-tvNDxXcxv/s400/Yvonne-Hiller.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div>What goes around comes around.<br /><br />It’s funny how much the black female IR bloggers ridiculed Omar Thorton, a black man, for his workplace shooting rampage, yet a very short time later, we have Yvonne Hiller, a black woman, do the same thing. <a href="http://www.philly.com/dailynews/top_story/20100910_HORROR_IN_THE_WORKPLACE.html">Here is the story:</a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><blockquote>HORROR IN THE WORKPLACE<br />By DAVID GAMBACORTAPhiladelphia Daily News<br /><a href="mailto:gambacd@phillynews.com">gambacd@phillynews.com</a><br />215-854-5994<br /><br />A FEMALE EMPLOYEE who was escorted out of the Kraft Foods building in<br />the Northeast after being suspended last night returned within minutes with a<br />.357 Magnum and began firing at fellow workers, police said.<br /><br />She killed two female employees on the third floor and shot and<br />critically wounded a male employee in a stairwell, police said. Sources<br />identified her as Yvonne Hiller, whose address not immediately<br />available.<br />Police Commissioner Charles H. Ramsey told reporters that Hiller<br />then went to the second floor and hid in an office.<br /><br />She was unaware that in an adjoining office, seven employees were<br />hiding. They called police and told them where she was.<br />As police approached<br />her hiding place, Hiller fired a shot through the wall at them and at one point<br />reloaded her weapon, Ramsey said. Hiller surrendered when SWAT team members<br />entered the room about 9:30 p.m., he said.<br /><br />The drama at the plant, on Byberry Road near Roosevelt Boulevard, began<br />about 8:35 p.m., when Hiller was escorted from the building after being<br />suspended from her job, Ramsey said. It wasn't clear why Hiller, a 15-year Kraft<br />employee, had been suspended.<br /><br />She got into her car and several minutes later drove through a barrier,<br />jumped out with the high-powered handgun, ran into the building and began<br />shooting.<br /><br />Police, firefighters and emergency equipment swarmed around the<br />building.<br /><br />About 100 employees, who make Oreo cookies, Philadelphia Cream Cheese<br />and Oscar Mayer bacon, were evacuated, and busy Roosevelt Boulevard was<br />temporarily shut down.<br />The wounded man was admitted to Aria Health's<br />Torresdale hospital in critical condition.<br /><br />Chief Inspector Joseph Sullivan hailed the actions of a mechanic who<br />encountered the woman on the third floor and followed her to the second, talking<br />with police all the while on his cell phone and encouraging other employees to<br />evacuate.<br /><br />At one point, Hiller realized she was being followed, turned around and<br />fired at the man. He sprained an ankle ducking the bullet and required hospital<br />treatment, Sullivan said.<br /><br />"His actions made a big difference to police," Sullivan said. "Inside<br />that building is a labyrinth. Without his information, police would have had<br />trouble making their way through the building."<br /><br />Tanya Bussey, whose sister Valerie Johnson works in the building, got a<br />scare when her sister called her after the shooting erupted.<br />"My sister<br />called and said there was someone in the building who was shooting and that she<br />was going to hide, and then her phone went dead," Bussey said.<br /><br />She said that panic gripped her and that she and another relative raced<br />to the building. Her sister finally called back and said she was safe and<br />sound.<br /><br />Andrew Wells said his father-in-law, who works for Kraft, phoned his<br />own wife and said, "Someone came down the hallway. There's shooting in the<br />bakery."<br /><br />Earl Cooper, an electrician at Kraft, said he and a few other employees<br />were working in a small lab when a supervisor entered and shouted, "Keep<br />everybody back!"<br /><br />"Then I heard a couple of gunshots," he said. "Kraft is like a big<br />family. People were worried if their friends were all right.<br /><br /></blockquote><br />Here is a good example of the hypocrisy of the so-called black female empowerment bloggers. They are all too willing to point the finger at black men for pathological behavior, yet so unwilling to look at the pathological behavior within themselves. What is notable is that her case will inevitably bring out white voices critical of the violent behavior that they associate with blacks. So while these IR bloggers are pointing fingers at black men while praising white men, many of those same white men are using the example of this one black woman to point the finger at black people in general.</div><div> </div><div>It is also important to note that the two people she murdered were targeted and both are black women.</div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-35098198302292672302010-08-24T16:50:00.000-07:002010-08-24T19:35:11.463-07:00Interracial Divorce. A New Study.<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7olrEjV6-WjRXfARuYiga9TLiVcpNNq-gwDrfj0g0d_VOUxyeUuHB9g0kSuYJT3cH1SM_ZUvEIS7B2iJ5D51NXsuazfYcWesBjZwE2YR4onjUt_YBgtar5xlOU7zQu-qF7aPhY4aLeUUA/s1600/divorce2.gif"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 242px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 222px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5509169540053905826" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7olrEjV6-WjRXfARuYiga9TLiVcpNNq-gwDrfj0g0d_VOUxyeUuHB9g0kSuYJT3cH1SM_ZUvEIS7B2iJ5D51NXsuazfYcWesBjZwE2YR4onjUt_YBgtar5xlOU7zQu-qF7aPhY4aLeUUA/s400/divorce2.gif" /></a><br /><div>Hat tip to Andrew over on his blog "Mr. Laurelton Queens" for pointing out a new study entitled <a href="http://www.soc.utah.edu/~vfu/papers/divorce20090513.pdf">"Broken Boundaries or Broken Marriages?". </a>Andrew references Evia's discussion of this study and her rather comical attempt at discrediting it. It is that attempt that I am going to discuss and how it relates to a certain habit exhibited by her and her fellow IR bloggers along with discussing some key points of the study.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Basically, the recent study by Vincent Kang Fu and Nicholas H. Wolfinger, both of the University of Utah, contradicts a previous study posted in a journal from the National Council on Family Relations by concluding that interracial marriages between black women and white men are more prone divorce than all other marriages involving white men. Evia's reaction to this is as followed:</div><br /><div></div><br /><div><br /><blockquote>Anyway back to the study sent to my private emailbox. Another red light<br />about the linked-to study above was that the women in the study married in<br />the 1980s and 1990s, were in their upper teens (TEENAGERS!) and early 20s and<br />typically only had high school diplomas and "some" college.<br /><br />Really?<br /><br />The National Council on Family Relations (NCFR) research that I<br />posted first in October 2009 studied couples who were more educated<br />and more mature in age. Those black women were women like us. The study<br />referred to the similar education level with their white husbands and the<br />vetting that went into selecting each other. This is a far cry from the way the<br />very young select their mates.<br /><br />The typical bw-ir candidate these days is NOT a teenager and not<br />even in her early 20s.<br />The type of bw who I aim my blog at or who<br />reads my blog is not the type of bw in the study who is a married teenager<br />or early 20-something with a low education level. LOL! The typical bw who<br />reads my blog is a college grad and many have 2nd degrees and/or are the<br />graduates of professional schools, i.e. law, medicine, or have professional<br />licenses, i.e. cpa, pharmacy.<br /><br />I would EXPECT for American women who marry when they're teens or early<br />twenties with high school diplomas or "some" college to not be able to meet the<br />challenges of marriage. So I'm not surprised if those relationships had a high<br />failure rate. Successful marriages are helped tremendously<br />by maturity. So those research findings did NOT contradict what<br />I've said here. I would venture to guess that those women also had lower<br />incomes, fewer options of all types, lower social exposure,<br />lower social standing, etc. than many bw who read my blog or are interested in<br />dating and marrying out these days.<br /></blockquote></div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Now here is the problem. The "NCFR research" is actually research by Bratter and King that was posted in an NCFR journal. Fu and Wolfinger reference the Bratter and King study and compares it to their own study. Fu and Wolfinger note that they themselves "use data from the 1995 and <strong>2002 waves of the National Survey of Family Growth</strong> to investigate divorce differentials between endogamous and intermarried couples". Likewise, they note where Bratter and King acquired their date for their research. Can any guess where they acquired their date from? <strong>FROM THE 2002 NATIONAL SURVEY OF FAMILY GROWTH</strong>.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>In other words, all of those surveyed in the "NCFR research" were surveyed in Fu and Wolfinger's research. The difference is that Fu and Wolfinger's research likewise included the 1995 National Survey of Family Growth. This is noted on page 22 of the paper: </div><br /><div></div><br /><div><br /><blockquote>"Bratter and King (2008) use the 2002 NSFG, half of the data that we use".</blockquote></div><br /><div></div><br /><div>So the question is where did Evia get the idea that the study that she likes had more mature, better educated and more financially able women being surveyed? All of the women from the study she likes participated in the study she doesn't like and the study she doesn't like additionally includes women from a version of the very same survey done seven year earlier. So where did Evia get this notion from? Quite simply, SHE MADE IT UP. She does something that she and the rest of her IR/black female empowerment cohorts routinely do. They simply imagine up things and present them as facts and damn anyone who asks them to provide evidence.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Now the interesting part of study is that it aims to show whether the generally higher rate of divorce for interracial marriages is due to intermarriage in and of itself or more so due to the acquisition of spouses with high divorce propensities. The research explains that black marriages have high divorce rates and the research leans toward the reasoning being that both black men and women have high divorce propensities. Basically, black people in general bring personal characteristics to marriage that increase the likelihood of divorce. The hypothesis is that if divorce rates for intermarried couples reflect a predicted mix of the divorce rates for the two constituient origin groups, then the divorce rate is not due to marriages being interracial. This is the finding of the research with regard to black/white marriages. Marriages between whites and blacks dissolve at higher rates than endogamous white marriages because the intermarriage contains a black spouse and not because they are intermarriages. </div><br /><div></div><br /><div>With regard to women, the research shows that Hispanic women have the lowest divorce propensity, followed by white women and then black women, who have the highest divorce propensity. Whether married to white or black men, black women have a high likelihood for divorce. Black men also have a high divorce propensity as well as Hispanic men, yet Hispanic marriages have the lowest rate of divorce of all marriages. Seems that Hispanic women's low divorce propensity is able to overshadow the high divorce propensity of Hispanic men.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Fu and Wolfinger also show the inadequacy of Bratter and King's research along with others. They state that:</div><br /><div></div><br /><div><br /><blockquote><br /><p>These studies and others share a conventional approach for assessing the<br />effect of intermarriage on divorce: they directly compare the divorce rates of<br />interracial and same-race couples, ascertaining, for example, whether divorce<br />rates of Black wife/White husband couples differ from those of Black/Black and<br />White/White couples.<br /><br /><strong>THIS APPROACH IS INADEQUATE</strong> because it does not uniquely identify the<br />effect of racial intermarriage on divorce. In the above example, Black<br />wife/White husband couples differ from endogamous White couples in two respects:<br />(I) the presence of a Black wife and (ii) the crossing of a racial<br />boundary. Either could be responsible for the higher divorce rate.<br />In order to uniquely identify the effect of intermarriage, a statistical model<br />must control for first-order racial differences in divorce propensities.<br />Only then can the effect of crossing a racial boundary be identified.</p></blockquote></div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com20tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-38882313496177016552010-07-12T18:47:00.000-07:002010-07-12T19:42:22.466-07:00Continued Silence...<div align="left"> Of course, this is to be expected. If the so called “black woman empowerment/IR bloggers” (also known as the “Something Screwed Crew” (SSC) are geared toward promoting black woman victimism, one would not expect them to mention when black women are the victimizers. Yes, we can criticize them for not mentioning when black women are the victims of non-black men, but it is reasonable to not expect them to mention the reverse. Yet, we can criticize the hypocrisy.<br /><br />These women constantly preach the notion of the angelic black woman as well as the noble white man. They hide the truth of just how much the pathologies prevalent in black America are prevalent among black women. They also are deceptive when it comes to the actual direction of media bias. Take a look at the <a href="http://www.sfexaminer.com/local/Three-women-charged-in-connection-with-SF-mans-robbery-murder-74053707.html?c=y">following incident </a>from about 8 months ago.<br /><br /><br /></div><div align="left"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFaPwHYtfyMnoOEyqvydGDFjR_MUd18tBMdXemiZ0P0Bb25pNRntWUtCdGpAj4FYaGefVG9dL-6DUlWIbP2nQVl2-OuWBMAoDoBOguwsny6SpZJH2RNt5cv6Lf_1OpOkV851TXNi0AE7ws/s1600/Ben.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 240px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5493210971748870306" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFaPwHYtfyMnoOEyqvydGDFjR_MUd18tBMdXemiZ0P0Bb25pNRntWUtCdGpAj4FYaGefVG9dL-6DUlWIbP2nQVl2-OuWBMAoDoBOguwsny6SpZJH2RNt5cv6Lf_1OpOkV851TXNi0AE7ws/s320/Ben.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><br /><blockquote>Three women charged in connection with SF man's murder<br />Bay City<br />NewsNovember 25, 2009<br /><br />Ben Merrill (Courtesy photo)<br />SAN FRANCISCO —<br />Three women were charged with murder and robbery today in connection with the<br />shooting death of a San Francisco man in a park near the Pittsburg Marina<br />earlier this month, Pittsburg police Lt. Brian Addington said. The victim,<br />22-year-old San Francisco resident Benjamin Merrill, had a date with a woman in<br />San Francisco on the evening of Nov. 2, but she didn't show up, Addington said.<br /><br />As Merrill was walking home through the city's Mission District at about<br />1:30 a.m. on Nov. 3, two women pulled up to him in a car. They asked for<br />directions and engaged him in conversation, Addington said.<br /><br /><br />Investigators believe those women were Pittsburg resident Kiarra Price and<br />Richmond resident Teareney Brown, both 20 years old.<br /><br />After talking with the two women, Merrill allegedly willingly got into<br />their car, possibly to go have a drink with them, Addington said.<br /><br />The group ended up in Pittsburg, where they stopped at the house of the<br />third suspect, 21-year-old Pittsburg resident Kendra Fells.<br /><br />Fells lives about half a mile from Marina Park where Merrill was shot,<br />Addington said.<br />The group drove to the park and got out of the car, at which<br />point the women allegedly robbed Merrill and Price allegedly shot him.<br /><br />Price, who also had an outstanding drug warrant, was arrested Friday after<br />investigators saw her leave her house in the 200 block of Kingsberry Place in<br />Pittsburg, Addington said.<br />Brown, who also had a warrant out of Alameda<br />County for vehicle theft, was arrested Monday at a relative's house in Oakland,<br />authorities said.<br /><br />Fells has not yet been arrested, but police have a warrant for her<br />arrest, Addington said.<br />All three women have been charged with murder and<br />robbery, Addington said. Police have recovered the vehicle they believe was used<br />in the shooting along with Merrill's iPhone, Addington said. When police first<br />found Merrill, they were unable to identify him for two days. He did not have a<br />driver's license on him and had no criminal record, so his fingerprints were not<br />in any law enforcement database. Shortly after the shooting, however,<br />investigators issued a flyer to law enforcement agencies with a photograph of<br />the victim. Coincidentally, Merrill's cousin, who was watching a trial in San<br />Mateo County Superior Court, happened to look over and see a police officer<br />holding a copy of the flyer, Addington said.<br /><br />When Merrill's family contacted Pittsburg police and gave them<br />Merrill's name, police were able to look up his fingerprints in the Department<br />of Motor Vehicles database and confirm his identity, Addington said.<br /><br />Investigators have since talked to the woman who stood Merrill up the<br />night before the shooting and do not believe she was in any way involved in his<br />murder, Addington said.<br />"She ended up having a rock-solid alibi," Addington<br />said.<br /></blockquote><br /><br /><br />Now, of course, this isn’t posted to imply that white men or any men are in danger when fraternizing with black women (most of woman of any group are decent human beings), but similar incidents involving non-black women are practically unheard of. The tendency toward street crime among black women relative to other women is similar to that of black men relative to other men. Black women make up half of the female prison population.<br /><br />Also, if the young man had been robbed and killed by three black men, their faces would have been pasted all over the media. It took some reading and research to find out that these were black women. Any images that had been posted of these women have been removed. The white man/black woman relationship is routinely protected while the media is more than happy to warn white women of the ‘dreaded’ black man.<br /><br />Let’s face it. This young man had Jungle Fever and saw an opportunity to take part in a ménage à trois swirl with the possibility of a 4th addition to the fun. A dream come true. They took advantage of his naivety and the understandable attraction to black women. This is a young man with no criminal record who had his entire life ahead of him. It is sad on so many levels. May he rest in peace.<br /><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggtuDp50tsTJE9uUkb2CVDDHupy5dODQNWfgKLKgYYgJxLbuwY_ftmfMkVvSfSSpzmNJ2lWVygp5CnbUYbP_1JvDunSXG_x5dmBa1bZ-DYXWCuIASxI7E7DJ8iVdJmb6WXjAAhdLwfrqAm/s1600/brown.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 79px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 93px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5493212883668548002" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggtuDp50tsTJE9uUkb2CVDDHupy5dODQNWfgKLKgYYgJxLbuwY_ftmfMkVvSfSSpzmNJ2lWVygp5CnbUYbP_1JvDunSXG_x5dmBa1bZ-DYXWCuIASxI7E7DJ8iVdJmb6WXjAAhdLwfrqAm/s400/brown.jpg" /></a><br /></div><p align="center">Teareney Brown</p>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com24tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-19445362285329734592010-07-03T19:30:00.000-07:002010-07-03T20:14:23.777-07:00Notice The SilenceI think that it is quite evident that if the man pictured had brown skin, kinky hair and/or other characteristics identifying him as black/African American, the so called "black woman empowerment/interracial" bloggers would have found this case from one month ago and plastered it up all over the Internet. Yet what we observe is deafening silence.<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgVLqoj0GIvpUinIlTHaYuKJ1UuVmdK3qaO9yC5hjgCxF-vqSofhgYIO7FI8O7cj4ot-Jy0CFjhKL1I0Vg-iqqHsSuoVdJ7YhyphenhyphenQ1WDsm62gunlzgE_xijK63VXBrC3Q8bJr-i4G_DXhe64o/s1600/image001.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 300px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 225px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5489873996414867410" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgVLqoj0GIvpUinIlTHaYuKJ1UuVmdK3qaO9yC5hjgCxF-vqSofhgYIO7FI8O7cj4ot-Jy0CFjhKL1I0Vg-iqqHsSuoVdJ7YhyphenhyphenQ1WDsm62gunlzgE_xijK63VXBrC3Q8bJr-i4G_DXhe64o/s320/image001.jpg" /></a><br /><p></p><br /><br /><br /><blockquote><a href="http://www.12newsnow.com/Global/story.asp?S=12606231">Sheriff says man killed woman with hammer, dragged her about a quarter mile</a><br /><br /><br />Orange County Sheriff's office says a 35-year-old Kountze man has confessed to killing a 26-year-old Beaumont woman over the weekend and later dragging her body behind his pickup truck.<br /><br />Authorities say William Baker Bibb is charged with murder and is being held in the Orange County Jail on a $1 million bond. Authorities say preliminary autopsy results show the woman died of blunt force trauma to the head.<br /><br />The Orange County Sheriff's Office says they received a call at 11 a.m. Saturday morning of a dead body near the Rose City Sand Pit in Rose City. According to the Sheriff's office, the man called 911 claiming he and the deceased woman were victims of a crime.<br /><br />But authorities now say Bibb confessed to killing Theresa Adell Ardoin sometime Saturday morning after a "fight." Orange County Sheriff's Department say Bibb picked up Ardoin from Magnolia Avenue in Beaumont and drove her to a sandpit north of Rose City.<br /><br />The sheriff says Bibb and Ardoin were acquaintances and allegedly got together to "possibly do some drugs, have sex" at a sand pit, but they argued. Bibb allegedly struck her with a hammer.<br /><br />Authorities say after killing her, Bibb attached her body to his pickup truck and dragged about a quarter-mile to the canal.<br /><br />Authorities say there is no evidence that the crime was that of a hate crime. Bibb is Caucasian, while Ardoin was African American.<br /><br />The Orange County Sheriff's Office Criminal Investigations Division is investigating the case as murder.<br /><br />The Orange County Sheriff's Office is being assisted by detectives from the Orange Police Department, Pinehurst Police Department, Vidor Police Department, and the Orange County District Attorney's Office.<br /><br />The Orange County Sheriff's Office is calling this one of the worst murder investigations they've ever had. Workers and business owners at the sand pit property said it's hard to believe the gruesome story of what happened over the weekend.<br /><br />Jason Miles has driven through the gates at the Rose City Sand Pit as a freelance truck driver for several years.<br /><br />He said he can't believe he now shares his workplace with crime-scene investigators.<br /><br />"Such a horrendous crime - and just knowing that it happened nearby where you work is even more of a shock" said Miles.<br /><br />Investigators said William Bibb confessed to killing an acquaintance Theresa Ardoin Friday night near a clearing in the sand pit. Investigators said Bibb beat Ardoin to death with a hammer, then tied her body with a rope to his truck, and dragged her a quarter mile dumping the vehicle and Ardoin's body in a ditch.<br /><br />In a press conference Monday, the Sheriff's office said though Ardoin is black, they won't investigate the murder as a hate crime, citing the evidence doesn't point to her death being about race or religion.<br /><br />"At first he had given us a set of facts and then whenever he was really questioned by the investigators about his facts that didn't make any sense- then he realized he needed to tell the truth" said Chief Deputy Rodney Harrison with the Orange County Sheriff's Office.<br /><br />But the truth is, some businesses in the area are upset.<br /><br />Nearby business owners said some of the gates leading to the clearing are never locked - leaving the property exposed to anyone coming in and out whenever they please.<br /><br />For Miles, he said that knowing someone took advantage of the isolated dirt roads he works on every day, is upsetting.<br /><br />"It's very sad to hear that anyone loses their life to a violent crime and just knowing that it happened here makes it that much more close to home" said Miles.<br /><br />Leaving Miles with a new perspective as he works within the yellow tape, a haunting reminder of the weekend's events.</blockquote><br /><br />God rest this young lady's soul. She paid the ultimate price for "opening up her options" and the IR and Black Woman Empowerment bloggers don't care.Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com49tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-17225593779253030072010-06-17T20:17:00.000-07:002010-06-19T21:24:37.532-07:00"Going Off"<object width="640" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/AGAI4r3X6lk&hl=en_US&fs=1&"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/AGAI4r3X6lk&hl=en_US&fs=1&" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="640" height="385"></embed></object><br /><br /><br /><br />A punch to the face hurts. A punch to the face of a young woman by a man hurts more because it not only hurts the recipient of the punch, but likewise hurts the hearts of any men who to some reasonable extent value women as flowers to be protected. But the punch to the face, beyond how it hurts the recipient and hurts our hearts, is a prime example of the penalty often paid for the widespread phenomenon of “going off”.<br /><br />The phrase “go off” in this context is derived from the common usage referring to a bomb exploding. We hear folks refer to a bomb “going off”. In much the same way, a person is referred to as “going off” when that person, as a result of anger, offense, discontent, fear, etc., loses control of their emotions and behavior often resulting in irrational and overaggressive behavior. They often become loud, confrontational and volatile. Such behavior has often resulted in detriment not only to the person “going off”, but likewise the people close to them.<br /><br />A controversial incident occurred more than a year ago in Bellaire, Texas (a suburb of Houston). Robbie Tolan was shot in front of his house after being ordered to the ground under the suspension of auto theft. We know now that he was unarmed and driving his own car, but he ended up with a non-fatal, yet quite detrimental gunshot wound. Why did this happen? It is because his mother came outside and WENT OFF. Her actions resulted in her being pushed against the garage door, which in turn caused Robbie, who was lying on the ground, to react as any young man would when seeing his mother manhandled. He got up to protect his mother. This resulted in a gunshot wound, hospitalization and surgery. Consider that both of his parents came out of the house. Only one WENT OFF and that one was his mother. Her reaction and Robbie’s subsequent reaction served as the officer’s defense in the criminal trial. The officer was acquitted of all charges.<br /><br /><br /><object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/HMIuG3HvV0Y&hl=en_US&fs=1&"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/HMIuG3HvV0Y&hl=en_US&fs=1&" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object><br /><br /><br />I posted the above video a while ago but it is a strong enough example to show again. This is a very prime example of GOING OFF. This woman went completely off due to taking offense to overhearing someone criticizing her attempts to cut the line. This resulted in the guy who was criticizing her being beaten to a pulp by her 300 pound ex-convict boyfriend and that same boyfriend going back to prison for a rather long time as a result. Nothing productive came out of her GOING OFF. Plenty of negativity came out of it.<br /><br />Now back to the recent event. A young lady was accosted by a Seattle police officer for jaywalking. As a result, the young lady WENT OFF. Now a reasonable person who is thinking rationally would know that resisting the police almost NEVER accomplishes anything. It doesn’t prevent you from being arrested. It doesn’t prevent you from getting a ticket. It doesn’t prevent you from being shot. If anything, it makes arrest, shooting and ticketing more likely. What this young lady accomplished was making a situation far worse than it should have been and causing a naive friend to take a masculine punch to the face. Now I know that there are those out there who are itching to ask why the young men watching didn’t physically defend the women. Well, this takes me back to the pizza shop video and the incident in Bellaire, Texas. Often when women go off, men suffer the most. Let’s say that one of the young men did go up and begin fighting the police officer. What could have happened? Well, for one, he would have been committing a felony. Second, the risk of being shot instead of punched in the face would have been far greater for him (as was shown in the case of Robbie Tolan). The one guy who did get physically involved did so intelligently by attempting to restrain the young lady who got punched. But this goes to show just how much potential there is for men to suffer due to women GOING OFF.<br /><br />Now here is the next point. Without a doubt, “going off” is a staple of black women and many actually take pride in this. It’s the notion that sistas don’t take any sh*t. This is a part of what so many black women view as their “strength”. Over aggressiveness, knee-jerk reactions, being confrontational, being argumentative, showing stubbornness, tactlessness and feistiness, etc. are things that many black women pride themselves on. This is what defines the “strong black woman” today. What we are seeing more and more of are black women suffering the consequences of such behavior. The unfortunate McDonald’s incident comes to mind when the teenage girls took repeated punches from a grown man (who I think has yet to be identified). We are seeing more and more black women getting tazered and manhandled by police. I have personally seen groups of police having to team up to arrest an irate black woman.<br /><br />Such behavior has often put black men at risk due to the traditional desire of men to protect women. Black men have been shot or incarcerated because of defending black girlfriends who have unnecessarily gotten involved in confusion. What we are beginning to see now are black men being less and less likely to defend black women and furthermore, we are seeing the same thing from non-black men. Chivalry is dying everywhere and is practically dead in the black community because many men are tired of defending those who are more than willing to start trouble.<br /><br />Men are also tired of being on the receiving end of those who “go off”. That is why so many black men are quick to curse women out today. Men often feel the need to save face because it is so common for women to go off on them in public with no consideration of how humiliating that is to men. Many black men are resisting commitment to those who would routinely go off on them during the relationship. Even the best of black men have to walk on eggshells when around their women and these women seem to not understand why men are so resentful of being talked crazy, yet lose respect for these same men when they take being talked crazy to in stride.<br /><br /><object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/YZQLxVO-qjM&hl=en_US&fs=1&"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/YZQLxVO-qjM&hl=en_US&fs=1&" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com18tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-53199866484153339392010-05-30T11:20:00.000-07:002010-06-04T18:44:53.379-07:00The "Tom Willis Syndrome"<div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiomE8I0yyquGJ5cn2OGQkhBis7KH0OcMSHPolbaBNLDpv0vA0rqu3uLxOtgZ9pG61hw2cRB76aXj7MogEbDzY7JO9ZqrjesRZF9WO7eEtJ9HbBFRh1exDos3OB0YpQLJ4ndSkIrtGTGSMK/s1600/Roker.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 222px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5477153560761820738" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiomE8I0yyquGJ5cn2OGQkhBis7KH0OcMSHPolbaBNLDpv0vA0rqu3uLxOtgZ9pG61hw2cRB76aXj7MogEbDzY7JO9ZqrjesRZF9WO7eEtJ9HbBFRh1exDos3OB0YpQLJ4ndSkIrtGTGSMK/s320/Roker.jpg" /></a> With the recent break-up between Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubrey, I have given a bit more thought to something I have long noticed about the dynamics commonly involved in relationships between black women and white men. It is something that I have pinned, the “Tom Willis Syndrome”. As anyone who tuned into The Jeffersons back in the day would clearly have noticed, Tom Willis was quite submissive to his wife Helen. His response to her raising her voice to him was a quick “yes dear”. It is interesting that even 30 plus years ago, this dynamic between white men and black women who are married was prevalent enough for it to be represented on television.</div><div></div><div></div><div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUgfy06Dj99qeW3lb7VPBhUR5DYt1ZB7CsK0gcO7e3uGtraNNpum7WnJ2VrdZceixNQLYHuoaRpurWFhWYzoEHzIwbPTtLsebNPwHYCk_UuJ01pAnKpSwRrKBTaQFNVCiPsk8teuBXdNQI/s1600/halle2.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 219px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5477159277350720578" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUgfy06Dj99qeW3lb7VPBhUR5DYt1ZB7CsK0gcO7e3uGtraNNpum7WnJ2VrdZceixNQLYHuoaRpurWFhWYzoEHzIwbPTtLsebNPwHYCk_UuJ01pAnKpSwRrKBTaQFNVCiPsk8teuBXdNQI/s320/halle2.jpg" /></a> Much of the rumor mill indicates that there was a similar dynamic between Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubrey. The most prevalent example is her passionately and blatantly kissing other men on stage without regard to his feelings and rumors suggest that she likewise disrespected him in other public settings whereas he simply took it in stride. Such rumors didn’t exist with respect to how she treated the black men she was with before. Quite simply, it is doubtful that David Justice, Westley Snipes, etc. would take such disrespect in stride.<br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaB_jZ0OCi5-JjK2m5YAIl1lBOYvObQN3-TLUK9W4GLLe0bIf9Wmqda6dqrFsDak5GC7pr-DX72x2ToMZrzSgTefD8L83-H9tkQpg37Izu-c-NDXzxyK09B2mbNL7cye2FHd47kXOpM_FF/s1600/berry.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 230px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5477157339384368386" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaB_jZ0OCi5-JjK2m5YAIl1lBOYvObQN3-TLUK9W4GLLe0bIf9Wmqda6dqrFsDak5GC7pr-DX72x2ToMZrzSgTefD8L83-H9tkQpg37Izu-c-NDXzxyK09B2mbNL7cye2FHd47kXOpM_FF/s320/berry.jpg" /></a> It’s not so long ago that we witnessed a rather demanding and lazy black wife on one of the “Wife Swap” shows whose white husband waited on her hand and foot and did all of the work around the house while she remained in an inclined position. It didn’t seem to bother him at all. Another episode of such a show showed a staunch conservative interracial couple whereas the black wife was EXTREMELY vocal in her views while the white husband simply remained quiet. Likewise, not too long ago, we witnessed a black wife state on national television in front of her white husband how much respect she had lost for him simply because he was recently out of work due to this current bad economy. The husband didn’t even try to defend himself. We saw how Tiffany “New York” Pollard dominated and disrespected the winner of her second reality show, George “Tailor Made” Weisgerber (who had already married one black woman before).<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFc8W8Y-bg6RPrqB_h4sFXb20PvsPakJpXDO7dIuKxnTTfoKuDSqI-_a6Mr80WtLYFK7Du6q44vNHcd9yAP4G7g0QVevrqemmRxJFqaGD6w_rpaMnHxBYnyhAtJtmiwElBFOxSxkKg0EYz/s1600/respect.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 232px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5477160443029260226" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFc8W8Y-bg6RPrqB_h4sFXb20PvsPakJpXDO7dIuKxnTTfoKuDSqI-_a6Mr80WtLYFK7Du6q44vNHcd9yAP4G7g0QVevrqemmRxJFqaGD6w_rpaMnHxBYnyhAtJtmiwElBFOxSxkKg0EYz/s320/respect.jpg" /></a>Now this is not to say that white men are passive in relationships. What this is referring to are those white men who tend to seek relationships with black women, especially the less than 1% of white men who marry them. These men seem comfortable with taking the passive role in relationships with domineering women, and see black women as a prime source for such dominance. While black women tend to not respect passive men, they tend to remain in relationships with passive men for long periods of time. They may treat the men poorly and even mess around on them (such as tongue kissing other men on stage), yet they are less inclined to leave such men and such men are content to be dominated by such women. This is in all likelihood why such relationships last longer than average. On the other hand, when such women are with dominant men, they respect those men a lot more and show such respect, yet the inevitable routine friction causes such relationships to not last as long. The fact that the effort of gaining respect from your woman may break you and your woman up is a dynamic quite prevalent in relationships with black women. Such is the irony.</div><div> </div><div></div><div>A good example of the tendency of certain white men to desire domination at the hands of black women is the number of videos on Youtube showing “mixed wrestling”. These are basically videos portraying the sexual fetish of men purposely being physically manhandled by women in thong bikinis. Notice that such videos seem to always include white men and a disproportionate number of them involve black women.<br /><br /><object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/VlHprqQzy3U&hl=en_US&fs=1&rel=0"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><br /><br /><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/VlHprqQzy3U&hl=en_US&fs=1&rel=0" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object><br /><object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/LX9dd0FQMTA&hl=en_US&fs=1&rel=0"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><br /><br /><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/LX9dd0FQMTA&hl=en_US&fs=1&rel=0" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object><br /><object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/J3109GdJUpY&hl=en_US&fs=1&rel=0"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><br /><br /><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/J3109GdJUpY&hl=en_US&fs=1&rel=0" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object><br /><object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/Ui8NicGwrLw&hl=en_US&fs=1&rel=0"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><br /><br /><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/Ui8NicGwrLw&hl=en_US&fs=1&rel=0" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object><br /><object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/jejWL6-lMgc&hl=en_US&fs=1&rel=0"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><br /><br /><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/jejWL6-lMgc&hl=en_US&fs=1&rel=0" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object></div></div></div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com37tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-66149327021149050512010-03-27T15:45:00.000-07:002010-03-27T20:39:36.446-07:00Spending Habits And Divorce<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKQUEVoZxeK3pHRfV10ydgsgtsPYmvJrhECmqYOmxkdpeyl6YACsciVrVcfh_Nic9OC4I-mtp_GeZHD63x_EWK2WBMFp2AzzkniRSVo8AhrkhjQH2WDtMWMzxPzv6peWFX1ZKkWvSBDh7D/s1600/money.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 214px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKQUEVoZxeK3pHRfV10ydgsgtsPYmvJrhECmqYOmxkdpeyl6YACsciVrVcfh_Nic9OC4I-mtp_GeZHD63x_EWK2WBMFp2AzzkniRSVo8AhrkhjQH2WDtMWMzxPzv6peWFX1ZKkWvSBDh7D/s320/money.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5453523051603583074" border="0" /></a><br />A lot has been mentioned of the high divorce rate for black marriages and it has been shown that <a href="http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1355/is_n1_v91/ai_18930297/">money is the leading cause of today's divorces</a>. With black men and women typically making less money than their white counterparts, one might deduce that this very factor makes finance influenced divorce more prevalent among blacks. But there is another factor, that being financial habits. <a href="http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/10068/1041225-28.stm">A recent study</a> gives a startling revelation about the financial circumstances of single black women:<br /><br /><blockquote>"Women of all races bring home less income and own fewer assets, on average, than men of the same race, but for single black women the disparities are so overwhelmingly great that even in their prime working years their median wealth amounts to only $5."</blockquote><blockquote>"Among the most startling revelations in the wealth data is that while single white women in the prime of their working years (ages 36 to 49) have a median wealth of $42,600 (still only 61 percent of their single white male counterparts), the median wealth for single black women is only $5."</blockquote><div id="TixyyLink" style="border: medium none ; overflow: hidden; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;"><br /><div id="TixyyLink" style="border: medium none ; overflow: hidden; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;">Now the disparities in income level between black women and white women are not even remotely as great as the disparity in median wealth between the two groups. Single white women don't come close to making twice the money single black women make, yet single white women seem to possess 8,520 times the median wealth of single black women. From the same study:<br /><blockquote><br />"Married or cohabitating white women have a median wealth of $167,500. Married or cohabitating black women have a median net worth of $31,500."</blockquote><br />So when black women get married or live with men (predominantly black men), their median wealth becomes 5.3 times less than the median wealth of married or cohabitating white women. Quite a difference from 8,520. Seems that the greater frugality of their husbands make a world of difference. So how do black men do with regard to median wealth? <a href="http://mediatakeout.com/2010/39390-what_in_the_new_study_finds_that_the_net_worth_of_a_single_white_woman_is_42000____and_the_net_worth_of_a_single_black_woman_is_5_details_inside.html">Let's see:</a><br /><br /><span style=";font-family:Trebuchet MS,Geneva,Ari;font-size:100%;" ></span><blockquote><span style=";font-family:Trebuchet MS,Geneva,Ari;font-size:100%;" >"Excluding vehicles, [working age] single black women have a median wealth of $100 and Hispanic women $120 respectively, while their same-race male counterparts have $7,900 and $9,730. The median wealth of single white women is $41,500. To put it another way, single black and Hispanic women have one penny of wealth for every dollar of wealth owned by their male counterparts and a tiny fraction of a penny for every dollar of<br />wealth owned by white women."<br /><br />"With so little in reserve, half of all single black and Hispanic women could not afford to take an unpaid sick day or to even have a major appliance repaired without going into debt."</span></blockquote><br />So while black men seemingly are not doing great with regard to holding on to personal wealth, they are doing far better than black women. Even looking at the chart on the page, black men with children of any age have a median net worth of $26,000 compared to $100 for similar black women. Black men with children under the age of 18 have a median net worth of $10,960 compared to a median net worth of $0 for similar black women.<br /><br />Of course, the claim will be that black women are overburdened with single motherhood, yet the fact is that there are <a href="http://www.wgntv.com/lifestyle/blackhistory/wgntv-coverstory-single-black-female-feb11,0,7631216.story">13 million single black women</a> overall and <a href="http://news.newamericamedia.org/news/view_article.html?article_id=0b237a9b1f0ed62a9fb384dbaa7ffb43">3.1 million single black mothers</a>. Single black mothers, at less than 25% of all single black women, should not have such an extreme effect on the overall median net wealth of all single black women. So what is the reason? <a href="http://www.louisianaweekly.com/news.php?viewStoryPrinter=359">Here is a hint:</a><br /><br /><blockquote>Almost seven in 10 (68 percent) Black women say that they buy what they really want ˜ in good times or bad. And many Black women face the temptation of unplanned spending when they are feeling stressed - nearly 40 percent report that they shop to cheer themselves up.<br /><br />Two in five Black women feel guilty about how much they spend on expensive brands.<br /><br />"For some Black women, excessive spending makes the road to long-term financial security even longer," Mims said. "To an extraordinary degree, Black women consider themselves trendsetters and centers of influence. Opinion-leading has its price."</blockquote><br />As anyone knows, when a woman marries, she expects her husband to contribute to her spending habits. A woman who tends to spend money that she doesn't have will similarly expect her husband to spend money that he doesn't have. This is, in all likelihood where the "gold digger" stereotype came from. It's a misnomer. Black women are not any more likely to be gold diggers than any other group of women are are possibly less likely to be. What is prevalent is the tendency to demand excess expenditure from their men; excess being that which can't be afforded. Whether black women's men make 20 grand a year or 200 grand a year, quite often those men are expected to invest nearly all of it toward their women's desires. This inevitably causes conflict and contributes to the high divorce rate.<br /></div></div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-18621055551209807112010-03-06T13:10:00.000-08:002010-03-06T15:13:13.020-08:00Demanding Love and Commitment<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEirfFAEYRqAsZl_Mm8O9P8mKQr5V8HiR4_h2oPw2ZTr4V4M1OfqMCTb2OqMtxyyMdjqIiU8mTFZgQleHalx7l7sBBm-ImadGkZnGFk5ysTg5rbWvpQYb4uum3W8jMLlcAr5n3km-RyL0So2/s1600-h/lioness.JPG"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 202px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEirfFAEYRqAsZl_Mm8O9P8mKQr5V8HiR4_h2oPw2ZTr4V4M1OfqMCTb2OqMtxyyMdjqIiU8mTFZgQleHalx7l7sBBm-ImadGkZnGFk5ysTg5rbWvpQYb4uum3W8jMLlcAr5n3km-RyL0So2/s320/lioness.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5445659904034145634" border="0" /></a><br />In 1981, Jennifer Holiday demanded that "you're gonna love me" and "I'm not going" in the the Broadway musical, Dreamgirls. Later on, Beyoncé asserted that "if you want it then you should have put a ring on it". Does it not seem that in modern times, a man's love, dedication, commitment, etc. are all things that women demand or are things women challenge men to do? Has the art of winning a man's heart been totally lost?<br /><br />More commonly today and to an an even more exaggerated extend within the black community, there seems to be great priority in snagging men through pressure. Men are expected to yield to the pressure to marry women they impregnate even if those women have won no more feelings from these men than sexual arousal. Men are supposed to marry women because women "deserve" to be married or because men are obligated to marry them. Men are supposed to marry women even if doing so sacrifices their happiness and emotional well being. Many women feel that they must force men to respect them as opposed to winning men's respect. They feel that they must force men to accept responsibility as opposed to helping create an environment that inspires men to accept responsibility.<br /><br />Today, men are no longer the kings of their castles. They generally don't even share the rule. Women rule the nest nowadays even when a man is in the house and they don't rule it based on being deserving, but rather by fighting a battle that their men overwhelmingly cannot win. Men hate to argue with their women, especially with the irrational way that women fight and argue. Such arguing and discourse is stressful for men while women seem to strive on it. So men give in and become resentful. Such resentment manifests in the passive aggressive ways so many women complain about and prompts men to keep their eyes open for ways out as soon as something they feel is better comes along.<br /><br />Back in the day, women were socialized early on to be good wives. When a guy impregnated a woman, he could be reasonably confident she would make a decent wife. Nowadays, a man has no idea what he will get. Pleasing a man is currently low priority for women and often seen as demeaning. Men are viewed by women as unemotional creatures who are available to be verbally and physical beat up at a whim, yet when men allow such abuse, the women lose respect for them. So a man has a choice of being looked down on by his woman or fighting her to a degree that endangers the relationship. It's a lose-lose situation. Men are more and more avoiding such nonsense and women, in common irrational form, can't see this for the world and routinely accuse men of being immature and non-committing.<br /><br />Black women, specifically, seem to have larger egos than other women; egos that are almost male-like. Such egos make any type of submission to their men or any type of catering to their men's egos out of the question while these same black female egos are satisfied when they demean their men. It is not uncommon for black men to be cursed out by their women even when not deserving of it. If a black man complains, he is asked to "man-up" and take it, yet if he takes in in stride, he is viewed as a punk. Making a suggestion to a black woman is commonly interpreted as telling her what to do and often results in a firm "nigga, shut up". Hell raising is a common response by black women to anything they disagree with. Black men are not supposed to have any feelings, any needs, any desires, opinions, wants, etc. in a relationship unless they are thugs or players. Thugs and players are treated like kings, yet rarely make good husbands and fathers.<br /><br />Winning a man's heart should be first priority. Not trapping him with pregnancy. Not throwing the coochie at him from the jump. Not starting the relationship by throwing your kids off on him under the guise of a packaged deal. You should inspire him to love you through sweetness and supporting his efforts to be a man. Show him that when he comes home to you, he will come home to comfort. In a world of 5 billion, the only importance a man has is the importance he has within his own home. Support him building his own personal castle and he will love, protect and provide for you till the end. Leave the male-like egos behind. They are quite unappealing.Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com45tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-73329672787739006422010-02-23T20:46:00.000-08:002010-02-27T13:36:26.905-08:00Black Women and HIV. Stop Blaming The Brothas.<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgGVrTXMR2W3ndevmEJ_VUC8h4Gpsqo9a6zQdN4mU62Z9m5sbEev46bo3XI48NwXq6-3h_lclg870cEBoBFt85bR2sXGEIUo7NhNH9s5TgrR1d3m8g8mFU705PgZJ5XJTIMghQjsstyPTBt/s1600-h/.a.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgGVrTXMR2W3ndevmEJ_VUC8h4Gpsqo9a6zQdN4mU62Z9m5sbEev46bo3XI48NwXq6-3h_lclg870cEBoBFt85bR2sXGEIUo7NhNH9s5TgrR1d3m8g8mFU705PgZJ5XJTIMghQjsstyPTBt/s320/.a.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5442391857625238674" border="0" /></a><br /><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:85%;color:black;" ><div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:130%;">In a world where men are generally held responsible for the actions of women and where this is taken to another level by the so called “black female empowerment bloggers” as it relates to black men, it has been very much noted that black men are blamed for the high rate of HIV infections in black women.</span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span><span style="font-size:130%;">Fuel is added by research indicating that most HIV infected black women were infected by heterosexual contact.</span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span><span style="font-size:130%;">By looking at it simplistically, it would seem that black men are the culprits, yet looking at it a little deeper shows a slightly different story.<br /><br /></span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> </div> <div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:130%;">First of all, it has been established through research that only <a href="http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=499&Itemid=177">3% of HIV positive black women</a> can attribute their infection to sexual contact a man who had sex with another man.</span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span><span style="font-size:130%;">This makes sense since studies indicate that only around 3% of black men are homosexual or bisexual, homosexual men of all races tend to be exclusively intimate with men once they come out of the closet and so-called “down-low” men usually don’t have multiple female partners (they tend to have one lady and multiple men).</span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span><span style="font-size:130%;">Thus, the vast majority of black women never have sex with men who have had sex with other men.<br /><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> </div> <div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:130%;">So eliminating gay or bisexual black men, we can see according to <a href="http://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&q=cache:fzj7NjhbgqsJ:www.cdc.gov/NCHHSTP/newsroom/docs/FastFacts-MSM-FINAL508COMP.pdf+of+men+with+hiv+are+gay&hl=en&gl=us&pid=bl&srcid=ADGEESjRv7VxGENgTLf0DPWYmVghmqKgFhTVjEPnlivROUVjOzuVq-asGhZUfzepMKGNILfF_JTF-Fwb-sWekdXnfCQQ88O5sxc3Q6I00T37tT-I3pFJWqZej6xnLO1O8tbctg4zO-Wm&sig=AHIEtbQ4LPCkmXHkhQ9lvnn0GzLBlXBECA">this chart</a> that there were</span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span><span style="font-size:130%;">7,340 new cases of HIV infections among black women in 2009 compared to</span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span><span style="font-size:130%;">3,290 new cases for heterosexual black men during the same year.</span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span><span style="font-size:130%;">And since lesbian contact accounts for such a minuscule number of infections as to not even register, practically all of these women infected by sexual contact are heterosexual or bisexual.</span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span><span style="font-size:130%;">Hence, we can see that there are at least twice as many heterosexual black women being infected by HIV as there are heterosexual black men even when the three percent of black women infected by men who have sex with other men are eliminated from the group.<br /><br /></span></div> <div class="MsoNormal"> </div> <div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:130%;">So what this shows is that a heterosexual black man through random chance is at least twice as likely as a heterosexual black women to have sexual contact with a member of the opposite sex who is HIV positive.</span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span><span style="font-size:130%;">Even if we consider those who are infected by intravenous drug use, the number of black men being infected in such a way is fairly similar to the number of black women being infected that way.</span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span><span style="font-size:130%;">At face value, this would seem that black women are more of a danger to black men than the reverse as it relates to spreading HIV, but we will be honest and not go there because the disease is spread much more easily from man to woman than from woman to man.</span><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-size:130%;">This would account for the greater number of heterosexual black women infected than heterosexual black men.<br /><br />But studies indicate that black women are infected with HIV at <a href="http://www.natap.org/2006/CROI/CROI_18.htm">21 times</a> the rate of white women while black men are infected at 7 times the rate of white men. So why are black women not infected at 7 times the rate of white women as black men are compared to white men? Why are black men not infected at 21 times the rate of white men as black women are compared to white women? Why the discrepancy? Here is my theory.<br /><br />Black women have a greater tendency than other women to seek intimacy with the very type of men who partake in more risky behavior. Those would be your thugs, hoodlums, pimps, players, etc. These are the very men most prone to having high numbers of sexual partners, least likely to use protection and most likely to partake in drug use. It is this tendency, in my opinion, for the bulk of black women to seek out the smaller number of 'bad boy' alpha males and their willingness to share these males as opposed to seeking one on one relationships with more stable, conservative males that contributes to the excessive infection rate prevalent among black women today</span>.</span><br /></div> </div></span>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com38tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-87350782744379089352010-01-16T18:27:00.000-08:002010-01-16T20:11:33.821-08:00Signs of RegressionPretty much most, if not all, of the pathologies prevalent in black America are present in other cultures, though often to a noticeably lower level. So basically, explanations as to why we are seeing certain negative trends in overall society, not only can be applied to black America, but black America is often a more extreme example of such negative social trends. This brings me to an <a href="http://www.singularity2050.com/2010/01/the-misandry-bubble.html">interesting blog post</a> I was linked to. It gives an interesting look at the nature of modern trends in marriage and relationships. Here is an<a href="http://www.singularity2050.com/2010/01/the-misandry-bubble.html"> excerp</a>:<br /><br /><p><strong></strong></p><blockquote><p><strong>The Primal Nature of Men and Women :</strong> Genetic research has shown that before the modern era, <a href="http://tierneylab.blogs.nytimes.com/2007/08/20/is-there-anything-good-about-men-and-other-tricky-questions/">80% of women managed to reproduce, but only 40% of men did</a>. The obvious conclusion from this is that a few top men had multiple wives, while the bottom 60% had no mating prospects at all. Women clearly did not mind sharing the top man with multiple other women, ultimately deciding that being one of four women sharing an 'alpha' was still more preferable than having the undivided attention of a 'beta'. Let us define the top 20% of men as measured by their attractiveness to women, as 'alpha' males while the middle 60% of men will be called 'beta' males. The bottom 20% are not meaningful in this context. </p> <p>Research across gorillas, chimpanzees, and primitive human tribes shows that men are promiscuous and polygamous. <a href="http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/07/23/decivilizing-human-nature-unleashed/">This is no surprise to a modern reader, but the research further shows that women are not monogamous, as is popularly assumed, but <em>hypergamous</em></a>. In other words, a woman may be attracted to only one man at any given time, but as the status and fortune of various men fluctuates, a woman's attention may shift from a declining man to an ascendant man. There is significant turnover in the ranks of alpha males</p> <p>As a result, women are the first to want into a monogamous relationship, and the first to want out. This is neither right nor wrong, merely natural. What is wrong, however, is the cultural and societal pressure to shame men into committing to marriage under the pretense that they are 'afraid of commitment', while there is no longer the corresponding traditional shame that was reserved for women who destroyed the marriage, <a href="http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/07/23/decivilizing-human-nature-unleashed/">despite the fact that 90% of divorces are initiated by women</a>. Furthermore, when women destroy the commitment, there is great harm to children, and the woman demands present and future payments from the man she is abandoning. A man who refuses to marry is neither harming innocent minors nor expecting years of payments from the woman. This double standard has invisible but major costs to society. </p> <p>To provide 'beta' men an incentive to produce far more economic output than needed just to support themselves while simultaneously controlling the hypergamy of women that would deprive children of interaction with their biological fathers, all major religions constructed an institution to force constructive conduct out of both genders while penalizing the natural primate tendencies of each. This institution was known as 'marriage'. Societies that enforced monogamous marriage made sure all beta men had wives, and thus unlocking productive output out of these men who in pre-modern times would have had no incentive to be productive. Women, in turn, received a provider, a protector, and higher social status than unmarried women, who often were trapped in poverty. When applied over an entire population of humans, this system was known as 'civilization'. </p> All societies that achieved great advances and lasted for multiple centuries followed this formula with very little deviation. Societies that deviated from this were quickly replaced. This 'contract' between the sexes was advantageous to beta men, women over the age of 35, and children, but greatly curbed the activities of alpha men and women under 35 (together, a much smaller group than the former one). Conversely, the pre-civilized norm of alpha men monopolizing 3 or more young women each, replacing aging ones with new ones, while the masses of beta men fight over a tiny supply of surplus/aging women, was chaotic and unstable, leaving beta men violent and unproductive, and aging mothers discarded by their alpha mates now vulnerable to poverty. So what happens when the traditional controls of civilization are lifted from both men and women?</blockquote><br /><br />The writer then goes on to show modern trends that lift such traditional controls. With the history of black men being deprived of their authority and financial abilities by past racism, it is clear why such traditional controls have been lifted from black men and women to a greater level.<br /><br />It appears that the chasing of alpha males is more prevalent among black women and this contributes greatly to the modern state of the black family. It helps create a high percentage of out-of-wedlock births, a high divorce rate and a high single rate. Our young boys are overwhelmingly being raised without fatherly influence and we are seeing the results today. A minority of black men seem to father a disproportionate number of our children and these very men are least likely to commit and/or be active fathers.<br /><br />I would recommend reading the rest of the article and clicking on its links. Very interesting stuff.Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-45391310385881354862009-12-14T18:06:00.000-08:002009-12-15T07:50:48.774-08:00"Men Are Supposed To Be The Leaders"This is a statement commonly made by the so-called "black woman empowerment bloggers" and "black woman interracial bloggers". It's not really stated because they actually believe this or consciously desire this to be the case. They make this statement for the purpose of chastising black men and to take away black female responsibility for contributing to the problems of black America. To understand the inherent problem with their repeated use of this statement, one must understand that which is necessary for leadership along with the various types of leadership.<br /><br />For anyone to lead, there must be those who submit to be led. With regard to submitting to male leadership and authority, there is typically more resistance from African American woman than probably any other group of women. This is added to the overall modern trend of women less and less accepting male leadership and authority and the common obstinate behavior of black American women. Now one must understand that there are three basic types of authority:<br /><br />1. Legal Authority: This type of authority with regard to gender is practically non-existent in American society due to modern laws not granting authority to men. Thus, black men have no legal authority over black women.<br /><br />2. Traditional Authority: The history of black men in this nation being deprived of so much authority has made male leadership in black America less the tradition than in other groups. Combined with the modern trend of women being less accepting of male authority and the added mulishness common to black women, you basically end up with black men having no traditional authority over black women.<br /><br />3. Charismatic Authority: This is the only real authority left to black men, yet it is limited to the exceptional. It is not an authority bestowed upon those men of good character, sound judgement and solid work ethic, but rather bestowed upon the small minority of men who possess god gifted talent. Thus, you have a handful of black men whose leadership black women will routinely submit to while the overwhelming majority of black men have no leg to stand on with regard to asserting themselves as leaders. As stated before, a leader requires those willing to be led by him/her.<br /><br />The problem with <span style="FONT-STYLE: italic">charismatic authority</span> is that it is value-neutral and doesn't distinguish between moral and immoral charismatic authority. This is why so many black women are willing to submit to being led by skilled and talented pimps, players, drug dealers and criminals. Unlike <span style="FONT-STYLE: italic">traditional authority</span>, charismatic authority tends less to relegate authority to men of sound character.<br /><br />So basically, when women who often resist submitting to male leadership declare than men are supposed to lead, they are actually in essence reaching for a way to not be responsible for their own behavior. They lower themselves temporarily to the level of a child making men/black men responsible for every misstep made by women/black women. Most men would not mind this IF if was consistent and not a case of picking and choosing according to convenience when to be the damsel in distress and when to be the "independent woman". Either let us lead or handle your own business.<br /><br />Below is a beautiful sista who understands this perfectly:<br /><br /><object height="344" width="425"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/x02qVZDKDrg&hl=en_US&fs=1&"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/x02qVZDKDrg&hl=en_US&fs=1&" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object><br /><object height="344" width="425"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/qBJ-CZkUjh8&hl=en_US&fs=1&"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/qBJ-CZkUjh8&hl=en_US&fs=1&" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object><br /><br />It is important to note that this dark skinned sista with African features and natural hair is HAPPILY MARRIED to a black man. It's not that brothas are so color-struck. It's that brothas want a positive attitude.<br /><br />And here is <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QsN0uGx6BCg">another intelligent and beautiful sista</a>:Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com57tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-21533602273192312082009-11-09T20:16:00.000-08:002009-11-09T20:18:23.879-08:00Black Women Have The Highest Self-Esteem<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKdL32J9gpEGB_OBhQBKfH3tFhSz5mbHY4hhtqYlK2PVjO-lqkgsso6OMpfp9xjWZhHCu-w165y5p_9Y1erYsntezm_VZeEBk7QY6_R9RGZyYQTv44-O3htYKs4_i-2LYZc5ylPDqAy9TS/s1600-h/ghetto.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 133px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKdL32J9gpEGB_OBhQBKfH3tFhSz5mbHY4hhtqYlK2PVjO-lqkgsso6OMpfp9xjWZhHCu-w165y5p_9Y1erYsntezm_VZeEBk7QY6_R9RGZyYQTv44-O3htYKs4_i-2LYZc5ylPDqAy9TS/s200/ghetto.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5402322050094952658" border="0" /></a><br /><div>It is amazing how wrong the warped perceptions of the IR and Black Woman Empowerment <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Bloggers</span> are. This is the price they pay for citing their alleged perceptions as facts. One of their errors is the routine claim that due to the (imagined) beating that they take from the black community, black women have low self-esteem and are discontent with their lives. The problem is that<a href="http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/236874/there_are_differences_in_selfesteem.html?cat=9"> research from experts</a> shows the exact opposite. Here are some excerpts:<br /><a href="http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/236874/there_are_differences_in_selfesteem.html?cat=9"><br /></a></div><div> </div><blockquote>There Are Differences In Self-esteem Between African-American Caucasian Women Living in the United States.<br /><div><br />Self-esteem is an internal belief system about one's self (Wilson 1). Our basic self-esteem develops during childhood to the age of about 12 (Wilson 1). Some variables that can influence one's self-esteem include individual skills, interests, and talents, economic status, community and culture (Wilson 2). <a class="kLink" oncontextmenu="return false;" id="KonaLink0" onmouseover="adlinkMouseOver(event,this,0);" style="position: static; text-decoration: underline ! important;" onclick="adlinkMouseClick(event,this,0);" onmouseout="adlinkMouseOut(event,this,0);" href="http://www.xomba.com/the_are_differences_in_self_esteem_between_african_american_caucasian_women_living_in_the_united_states#" target="_top">African-American women</a> will say positive things about themselves that Caucasian women are not comfortable with saying about themselves (Dent 1).</div><br /><div><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Rushton</span> found that African-American women have equal or higher self-esteem levels then Caucasians or Latinos (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">Rushton</span> 9). Gray-Little found that not only African-American adult women have higher self-esteem than Caucasian women but the same is true in children and adolescents (Gray-Little 17). <a class="kLink" oncontextmenu="return false;" id="KonaLink1" onmouseover="adlinkMouseOver(event,this,1);" style="position: static; text-decoration: underline ! important;" onclick="adlinkMouseClick(event,this,1);" onmouseout="adlinkMouseOut(event,this,1);" href="http://www.xomba.com/the_are_differences_in_self_esteem_between_african_american_caucasian_women_living_in_the_united_states#" target="_top">Abba</a> supports the idea that African-<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">American's</span> hold higher self-esteem standings throughout life (Abbas 2). Differences in self-esteem between African-American women and <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">Caucasian's</span> are less during childhood years and grow to adulthood (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">Twenge</span> 1). Support for this may be that a woman's sense of identity forms throughout her lifespan (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">Lafromboise</span> 2). Contradicting information states that Caucasians develop self-concepts as a race earlier because the Caucasians having great sociopolitical power which causes less issues to <a class="kLink" oncontextmenu="return false;" id="KonaLink2" onmouseover="adlinkMouseOver(event,this,2);" style="position: static; text-decoration: underline ! important;" onclick="adlinkMouseClick(event,this,2);" onmouseout="adlinkMouseOut(event,this,2);" href="http://www.xomba.com/the_are_differences_in_self_esteem_between_african_american_caucasian_women_living_in_the_united_states#" target="_top">work</a> though during racial identity development (Hill 5).</div><br /><div>Caucasian and African-American women hold significantly different views of <a class="kLink" oncontextmenu="return false;" id="KonaLink3" onmouseover="adlinkMouseOver(event,this,3);" style="position: static; text-decoration: underline ! important;" onclick="adlinkMouseClick(event,this,3);" onmouseout="adlinkMouseOut(event,this,3);" href="http://www.xomba.com/the_are_differences_in_self_esteem_between_african_american_caucasian_women_living_in_the_united_states#" target="_top">beauty</a> and perceptions of themselves (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">Molloy</span> 1). <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">Molloy</span> finds that African-American women have higher self-esteem levels based on body image than Caucasians (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">Molloy</span> 1). African-American females are less worried about weight, dieting, or being thin (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_10">Molloy</span> 1). Sixty-four percent of African-American women said that they'd rather be "a little overweight" than "a little underweight" (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_11">Molloy</span> 1). The differences in views may help one understand why eating disorders such as <a class="kLink" oncontextmenu="return false;" id="KonaLink4" onmouseover="adlinkMouseOver(event,this,4);" style="position: static; text-decoration: underline ! important;" onclick="adlinkMouseClick(event,this,4);" onmouseout="adlinkMouseOut(event,this,4);" href="http://www.xomba.com/the_are_differences_in_self_esteem_between_african_american_caucasian_women_living_in_the_united_states#" target="_top">bulimia</a> and anorexia is predominantly seen in white women ( <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_12">Molloy</span> 1). <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_13">Ossolotch</span> supports this by stating that people with low self-esteem have a greater-risk of developing an eating disorder (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_14">Ossolotch</span> 1). Eating disorders are a growing problem with African-American women (Edwards 1). Edwards says this is because of insensitive remarks being made by family members and friends as well as employers making them feel as though they <a class="kLink" oncontextmenu="return false;" id="KonaLink5" onmouseover="adlinkMouseOver(event,this,5);" style="position: static; text-decoration: underline ! important;" onclick="adlinkMouseClick(event,this,5);" onmouseout="adlinkMouseOut(event,this,5);" href="http://www.xomba.com/the_are_differences_in_self_esteem_between_african_american_caucasian_women_living_in_the_united_states#" target="_top">need to lose weight</a> to compete with the Caucasian woman (Edwards 1). </div><br /><div>Depression is also found to be more dominant in Caucasian women than African-American women (Abbas 2). Dent supports this by saying that low self-esteem causes greater risks for eating disorders, suicide, and depression (Dent 1). In 2000 the suicide rate for a population of 100,000 was 1.8 for African-American females and 4.3 for Caucasian women (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_15">Eshleman</span> 191).</div><br /><div>Both Caucasians and African-American women base part of their self-esteem about their bodies on what they think the men of their race prefer (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_16">Molloy</span> 1). African-American women tend to believe that African-American men prefer larger women, so they feel less pressure to lose weight then Caucasian women who believe Caucasian men prefer thin women (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_17">Molloy</span> 1). Research done on males preferences tended to support these views (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_18">Molloy</span> 1). <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_19">Molloy</span> says that African-American women who predominantly surround themselves with others of their race as apposed to members of the opposite race have higher self-esteem because they are "protected" from Caucasians distorted body image (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_20">Molloy</span> 2).</div><br /><div><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_21">Molloy</span> suggests that gender role also plays a role in women's self-esteem based on their bodies (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_22">Molloy</span> 1). African-American women are more likely to see themselves are masculine or androgynous whereas white women see themselves are more feminine (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_23">Molloy</span> 1). Women who feel more feminine are more likely to give in to stereotypical views on appearances (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_24">Molloy</span> 2).</div><br /><div>Socioeconomic status have a more positive affect on Caucasian women as opposed to African-American women (Gray-Little 5). Wilson suggested that African-American women of lower socioeconomic status' were more comfortable with having a heavier body type than higher socioeconomic African-American women (Wilson 2). Contradicting research says that African-American tend to have higher self-esteem levels throughout socioeconomic status ( Abbas 2). Since African-American women are subjected to longstanding socioeconomic inequalities yet still show higher levels of self-esteem suggests that socioeconomic factors do not affect their self-esteem (Abbas 3).</div><br /><div><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_25">Boisnier</span> did a study on feminism and <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_26">womanism</span> among Caucasian and African-American women and found that African-American women identify with <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_27">womanism</span> because it calls for high levels self-esteem (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_28">Boisnier</span> 2). Foster and Petty suggest that black organizations and social interaction help raise self-pride and help them identify with their race (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_29">Eshleman</span> 190).</div></blockquote><br /><br />So basically, black women not only have higher self-esteem, but have it across all economic levels and black women who live in the black community have higher self-esteem than those who live outside of the black community. Maybe this is why very few are fleeing the "dreaded" black community the way that the IR <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_30">bloggers</span> want them to. Maybe this is why few are running to the arms of the "white savior". Maybe it is because black women in general, being some of the main <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_31">architects</span> of the black community, actually are content within the very black community that they helped build.Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com34tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-26543155843516236282009-11-03T13:21:00.000-08:002009-11-03T14:05:13.586-08:00Wes Moore. The Next Barack Obama?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkvpsBdMGTjixs1i5jl4gK8uSa5Lfx2lcxiPZQ4w27NHRcz_WxfaFRsF6l2NSuTvKWn5RGvzQp7YkYayCoBVK-8xh9swwtHx31_QgDegcTBM00YX5NNJXHKG2XGB00nVUKimEmgum7EkWp/s1600-h/08flythe.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5399997327899932386" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 190px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 126px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkvpsBdMGTjixs1i5jl4gK8uSa5Lfx2lcxiPZQ4w27NHRcz_WxfaFRsF6l2NSuTvKWn5RGvzQp7YkYayCoBVK-8xh9swwtHx31_QgDegcTBM00YX5NNJXHKG2XGB00nVUKimEmgum7EkWp/s200/08flythe.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div><br /><div><div><iframe src="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/22425001/vp/31408315#31408315" frameborder="0" width="425" scrolling="no" height="339"></iframe><p style="MARGIN-TOP: 5px; FONT-SIZE: 11px; BACKGROUND: none transparent scroll repeat 0% 0%; WIDTH: 425px; COLOR: #999; FONT-FAMILY: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; TEXT-ALIGN: center">Visit msnbc.com for <a style="FONT-WEIGHT: normal! important; COLOR: #5799db! important; BORDER-BOTTOM: #999 1px dotted; HEIGHT: 13px; TEXT-DECORATION: none! important" href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/">Breaking News</a>, <a style="FONT-WEIGHT: normal! important; COLOR: #5799db! important; BORDER-BOTTOM: #999 1px dotted; HEIGHT: 13px; TEXT-DECORATION: none! important" href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/3032507">World News</a>, and <a style="FONT-WEIGHT: normal! important; COLOR: #5799db! important; BORDER-BOTTOM: #999 1px dotted; HEIGHT: 13px; TEXT-DECORATION: none! important" href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/3032072">News about the Economy</a></p></div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div><a href="http://thestimulist.com/wes-moore/">Wes Moore</a><br /><br /><blockquote>AGE: 30<br />JOB: Investment banker/former army captain<br />WHY YOU CARE: Because<br />the only thing better than one black president is two<br /><br /><br />Now, it’s<br />funny. Almost everyone we know seems to know someone they thought was going to<br />be the first black president. The green-eyed congressman from Memphis, TN. The<br />well-connected mayor of Newark, NJ. The super-smart, liked-by-all black guy you<br />went to college with. The founder/publisher of this site. So it’s with healthy<br />appreciation for his stiff competition that we give you. . .Captain Westley<br />Moore.<br /><br />If “Wes,” as he’s known to friends, does not become the second<br />black president, it’ll only be because he chose not to. His story is no less<br />inspiring than his credentials are impeccable. In brief: gets kicked out of<br />school and shipped off to military academy at 12, turns the beat around in under<br />a decade, graduates Phi Beta Kappa from Hopkins, snags a Rhodes Scholarship to<br />Oxford, does a tour of duty in Afghanistan, investment banks before winning a<br />White House Fellowship.<br /><br />Yeah. We said tour of duty.<br /><br />Last month,<br />Moore joined a a panel of veterans in testifying before the Senate Foreign<br />Relations Committee on the topic “Soldiers’ Stories From The Afghan War” (see<br />video below). We suspect accounts like his may have informed Gates’ decision to<br />remove General McKiernan yesterday — but that’s beside the point. As his Crains<br />40 Under 40 profile effuses: Moore served “10 months with the Army’s 82nd<br />Airborne Division in Afghanistan. There, he helped revise a program to win over<br />Taliban fighters, boosting its enrollment from 6 when he arrived to 500 by the<br />time he left, and earning a promotion to captain.”<br /><br />Make that El Capitan.<br />An up-by-the-bootstraps background, a championship college football career, a<br />Rhodes Scholarship, a tour of duty, a People’s Hottest Bachelor nod, an Asia<br />Society fellowship, a White House fellowship — and, oh, did we mention the<br />Random House book deal? What else does a future president need? Oh, right. A<br />brilliant wife. Check. In summer 2007, Moore married the stunning Dawn Flythe, a<br />one-time senior adviser to Maryland’s lieutenant governor. From a distance, you<br />might mistake Mrs. Moore for a certain Mrs. Carter. From her resume, you might<br />mistake her for a certain Lady O.<br /><br />The kicker?<br /><br />The Moores<br />couldn’t be kinder. The day Wes won his Rhodes Scholarship, he discovered that<br />there was another Wes Moore living in Baltimore. This second Wes Moore, also a<br />black man in his 20s, was headed to prison on a life sentence as Wes Moore #1<br />headed to Oxford. (Second-black-president) Moore arranged to see his<br />doppelganger in prison, and has kept in touch with him ever since. Next spring,<br />Random House will publish Moore’s Elevate: American Journeys into Manhood, a<br />parallel account of the “two Wes Moores.”<br /><br />If the first black president<br />heeds the counsel of the Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, and creates a Council for<br />men and boys, he’ll undoubtedly turn to Moore, no stranger to the White House<br />(and an Alpha himself). In the meantime, the Moores are laying plans to use<br />Elevate to catalyze a movement — answering BHO’s call to community service with<br />a nationwide campaign. Their idea is to do for youth and service what, say,<br />Diddy did with youth and voting in 2004.<br /><br />Of course, those who doubt<br />Moore’s pure intentions (read: those who envy his stunning accomplishments) say<br />all this good-doing is merely stage-setting for a political campaign. But you<br />know how that goes. The Stimulist is not in the business of tearing down young<br />people trying to build their communities up. And Moore just effuses too much<br />positivity to inspire anything but good will.<br /><br />So, to review. Army chops,<br />political chops, financial chops, a memoir, a wife as brilliant as she is<br />beautiful. We give you. . .Moore for 2024.</blockquote></div><div></div><div><a href="http://krieger.jhu.edu/magazine/spsum07/f1.html">More information on this young man's life.</a></div></div>Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.com31