tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post2028814940177957041..comments2023-08-18T12:26:52.573-07:00Comments on Black Men Confronting The Lies And Distortions: Are Black Women Gold-Diggers?Rockyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-40980787095085611452016-06-19T11:00:46.729-07:002016-06-19T11:00:46.729-07:00I disagree because I see it everyday I'm finan...I disagree because I see it everyday I'm financially secure but I mostly and like riding around on a mountain bike. Most of the time when I try to talk to a female it's usually the cold shoulder I even been ditch for someone whom they thought had more money, but when the ones that did give me the cold shoulder find out that I'm a home owner with a nice car and boat they'll flip there script and then all smiles a puppy dogs looks to me. This behavior always sends alarms up and I will always if she's there because of me or because of what I got. This is 95% of the time I meet someone and yes black females because I'm not attracted to white females at all <br />The Artisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15053335921887277093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-28439265425235281052014-03-23T18:39:11.002-07:002014-03-23T18:39:11.002-07:00That's a fallacy. Black women DO NOT have a sm...That's a fallacy. Black women DO NOT have a small pool to choose from. They just choose not to access their entire pool. Given the FACT that black women are a MINORITY in this country, even if a minority of white, asian and hispanic men wanted to date them there would be more than enough men for an educated black woman to choose from if she was not able to find a black man who made the income she desired. A lot of educated black women stay single not because they don't get male admirers but because they will only look at the black ones.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-23307439764891193712014-03-23T17:48:23.930-07:002014-03-23T17:48:23.930-07:00That's a fallacy. Black women DO NOT have a sm...That's a fallacy. Black women DO NOT have a small pool to choose from. They just choose not to access their entire pool. Given the FACT that black women are a MINORITY in this country, even if a minority of white, asian and hispanic men wanted to date them there would be more than enough men for an educated black woman to choose from if she was not able to find a black man who made the income she desired. A lot of educated black women stay single not because they don't get male admirers but because they will only look at the black ones.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-59028129248916985412011-08-18T11:04:58.628-07:002011-08-18T11:04:58.628-07:00Personally i've seen this "blood sucking&...Personally i've seen this "blood sucking" phenomenon present on women in general and from my general impression it's not so much linked to race or even education level as it is to a particular woman's sense of entitlement.<br /><br />P.S. I'm loving this blog, great writing all around.Bluesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-2311468226984881292011-08-17T09:35:32.167-07:002011-08-17T09:35:32.167-07:00Let me respond to the angry sellout black women.
...Let me respond to the angry sellout black women.<br /><br />If black men do pay, its to be with black women 99 percent of the time.<br /><br />Black men in general think white women should spend on them. I haven't met any black men pay to be with any white woman. Let alone a fat white woman.<br /><br />Now if your disgruntled about payment. You can always ask your rainbeau to finance your lifestyle.<br /><br />Apparently that is what you are looking for.<br /><br />However, you sound like a disgruntled "sexual employee" that always wants more money.<br /><br />Stop using your body as an atm machine and love a man for 'him".<br /><br />If you have trouble doing that. Stop complaining about payment.<br /><br />You have a nice day. LOLAndrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09219240435751933526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-3999931124394977412011-08-17T09:09:44.929-07:002011-08-17T09:09:44.929-07:00Anon. Can you read? On both posts, it reads:
&q...Anon. Can you read? On both posts, it reads:<br /><br /><i>"This post has been removed by the AUTHOR."</i><br /><br />They removed their own posts (an option anyone posting under a Google account has). If I had removed them, it would have said <i>"This post has been removed by the ADMINISTRATOR"</i>.Rockyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15184158922025670970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-63524091514066702572011-08-17T06:32:21.811-07:002011-08-17T06:32:21.811-07:00WHY DID YOU REMOVE EVIA AND VELOUR'S POSTS????...WHY DID YOU REMOVE EVIA AND VELOUR'S POSTS????<br />THEY MAKE MORE SENSE THAN ANY LOSER ON HERE, ANYWAY. <br /><br />You guys are so full of ish, as once you get paid, you want any trash, fat, ugly nonblack woman that you can get and will pay anything to be with her. Yet still look at black women as gold diggers for no reason. STOP FRONTIN BLACK MEN. Whether you are rich or not is irrelevant. JUST ADMIT THAT MOST BLACK MEN DISLIKE BLACK WOMEN. PERIOD!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-86750597591145825312011-08-05T15:22:09.713-07:002011-08-05T15:22:09.713-07:00in response to the video posted above, this just r...in response to the video posted above, this just reinforces stereotypes about black females wanting to be "normal". god forbid a nerdy guy shows interest in you....and you wonder why you can't "find a man". and forget them dating white guys such as myself, we're just too goddamn "weird".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-55292740924456114752011-07-05T16:10:59.632-07:002011-07-05T16:10:59.632-07:00My brother, Rocky:
You hit the nailon the head wi...My brother, Rocky:<br /><br />You hit the nailon the head with this article. It is more like blood-sucking. I've dated several sistas in my life just trying to find love, peace, balance, and to build a future and a family with, but not one of them have ever seemed to focus on our future, only their lack of means to impress their girls with how much money their man has, leaving brothas like me with unfair labels because of false beliefs about what men should be and should have. Even my wife is that way, and has begun pushing for divorce for this very reason. And before we physically separated living quarters, she rants tomy son about me not being a real man, because of what I "won't do" to bring more money home, yet fails to mention that she overspends irrationally. She had complained that I did't want to take her out and that I wasn't pursuing her once we got married, which was never true. I didn't take her out because we had money problems that she was causing, and the stress of me focusing on our finances alone and hearing all of her untrue and unfair judgments deadened my interest in her. But unlike her, I never threatened an affair, separation, or divorce. I tried to hang in there, praying for the day to come when she would see the light. So far, hasn't happened. We're separated and my house has begun getting in better shape because I've been using God's principles,including those for finance, to run my home. She's constantly complaining about needing more money. Sometimes I want to tell her again, "that's because you are spending too much." A brotha really can't get a break for choosing blood-suckers. Should this divorce happen, I'll take the pain as a lesson learned - to not ever be taken advantage of by another blood-sucker.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-30559043925802239392011-05-11T14:12:27.910-07:002011-05-11T14:12:27.910-07:00What on earth is Evia doing over here?What on earth is Evia doing over here?Menelik Charlesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-33593136682410706592011-05-10T14:21:09.890-07:002011-05-10T14:21:09.890-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Tuliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06503349071209445442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-8293859517346618612011-05-10T14:20:07.698-07:002011-05-10T14:20:07.698-07:00@Rocky
Youve got to pic up Social Work With Afric...@Rocky<br /><br />Youve got to pic up Social Work With African AMerican Males: Health Mental Health and Social Policy. <br /><br />The most interesting part so far is reading about suicide among young black men. Its a bit counter intuitive which groups are more prone to suicide and self harm. <br /><br />KigaliAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-39929185655963044172011-05-10T13:55:25.928-07:002011-05-10T13:55:25.928-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Tuliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06503349071209445442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-39082331976457753902011-05-10T11:25:43.459-07:002011-05-10T11:25:43.459-07:00Hey Rocky
I just release Mrlaureltonqueens.com
I...Hey Rocky<br /><br />I just release Mrlaureltonqueens.com<br /><br />I am still working the website though. It needs major work.<br /><br />I wrote about black women being the biggest subgroup being "single".<br /><br />They also had an article about it.<br /><br />I touched on it on my new post on my website.<br /><br />Take it easyAndrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09219240435751933526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-5966790218922893162011-05-09T13:20:25.685-07:002011-05-09T13:20:25.685-07:00Dear Rocky
I agree with you. Black women have a t...Dear Rocky<br /><br />I agree with you. Black women have a tendency to be a little idealistic about the potential of a man.<br /><br />For example, If a guy a great hustler on the street. They think he might be successful at a square job. Perhaps, loyal to a certain degree that they hurt themselves.<br /><br />White and Asian women tend to be around successful white men more than black women are. Since there is a higher percentage of successful men in the white subgroup. White and Asian women will snag one.<br /><br />The problem is that the same white and Asian women will snag a successful black man too if available.<br /><br />Black women unfairly have the gold digging label due to stereotypes and a perception they are jezebels and prostitutes. Since all women are competitive. You are not exactly going to see non black women try to "defend black women".<br /><br />I have had white women tell me things about black women that made me cringe. That is why I think white women are more aggressive than black women when it comes to dating and finding a successful man.<br /><br />So black women try extra hard to shed that label. They emphasize their college education and etc.<br />Basically, black women have to prove themselves more. Especially to non black men who raise the bar higher.<br /><br />There are far more white women who are gold diggers (I am serious about this). They guy could be bald and fat. Show me a black man with money and I will show you a white woman that is willing to sleep with him.<br /><br />Unfortunately, black women just got a bad reputation due to many things. I find non black women far more aggressive than black women. Physically black women win more fights. But mentally they are getting beat when it comes to dating.<br /><br />A white man wouldn't demand a white woman or Asian woman to do x,y, and z to be with them. They would be the ones jumping through hoops to get them.<br /><br />Whenever a black woman has to jump through hoops to get a man. She is bound to fail.<br /><br />Mr Laurelton QueensAndrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09219240435751933526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-42709346166321937472011-05-08T09:41:52.828-07:002011-05-08T09:41:52.828-07:00I'm not sure if I agree with the argument pres...I'm not sure if I agree with the argument presented in the article. I think the term gold digger refers to an individual that brings nothing to the table but expects to reap the benefit from the harvest-essentially a free loader except the relationship is romantic. I don't believe that black women are any more or less gold diggers than are non-black women. In general black women manner of engaging in gold digging is different. What black women should do is focus on the man with drive and determination in the early lean years....build with him and both can enjoy the fruits of their labor. You cannot also show up at the end of the show.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-45312787147733566312011-05-08T03:09:11.792-07:002011-05-08T03:09:11.792-07:00@Anonymous
"Its a lose-lose thing for black ...@Anonymous<br /><br />"Its a lose-lose thing for black women in it.<br /><br />If we want to lifestyle of the rich and famous-like other females- we are pushed to date wealthier men who can afford it.<br />But when we over look the blue collar black males who cant support that lifestyle, we are seen as being materialistic and not giving a brotha a chance because of his income.<br /><br />damned if you do and damned if you dont."<br /><br />The problem with black women and gold digging is that she has a smaller pool from which to choose from. This distorts the dating reality. You create harems for men with resources if they have access to more women than blue collar men. Also there is the issue of STDs being spread by one Alpha male with access to multiple women because his resources make him attractive to those women. <br /><br />White and Asian women have a larger pool of men to choose from. They dont distort the dating market by creating a bunch of women for a few men living a lot of men without women. <br /><br />The children of these relationship end up even worse. <br /><br />KigaliAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-85092250508170627612011-05-08T00:11:14.125-07:002011-05-08T00:11:14.125-07:00Bro Rocky,
this is slightly off-topic but this vi...Bro Rocky,<br /><br />this is slightly off-topic but this video is of a 17 year-old who spills her guts on how she so loathes Black men who aint ghetto:<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=niUTU6CZmJc&feature=uploademail<br /><br />Menelik Charles<br />London UKMenelik Charlesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-72167417673649043752011-05-07T17:43:08.737-07:002011-05-07T17:43:08.737-07:00@Rocky,
You will be surprised about the number of...@Rocky,<br /><br />You will be surprised about the number of brothas who dont stand up to their woman on various issues. Probably left over from their childhood with their own moms. But the finance issue raises an important point:women who dont hustle like this are notoriously quiet.<br /><br />They dont want to attract to much attention to themselves or to the men in their lives because they see through the smokescreens and shenanigans. I know alot of happily married black women who are with black men and they just smh at some of these women out here. Another thing is that some of these women, particularly the more bitter ones, like to socialize their individual issues and say that it applies to all black women,ie they are all the victim of black men. <br /><br />The same applies to some black men, but given the nature of our culture(or lack thereof) they get shouted down and out. ITs so prevalent that women like Evia and other black women have no concern for mens concerns but want to dominate the minds of men with their own.Kid W/Golden Armsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-46826200100169130302011-05-07T17:38:27.322-07:002011-05-07T17:38:27.322-07:00@anon
"But when we over look the blue collar ...@anon<br />"But when we over look the blue collar black males who cant support that lifestyle, we are seen as being materialistic and not giving a brotha a chance because of his income."<br /><br />no win situations are a staple of the "bwe" crew and how they approach black men...not vice versa,<br /><br />secondly, the only time blue collar brothas reply with that is when the sistas say there are "no good men around, all black men are (fill in the blank),etc,etc"<br /><br />Black women who date black men (not "males" as you put it) dont get more rejection, they get less. The entire culture leans towards a matriarchy and the "needs of the woman" are seen as universal while men are told to "suck it up and deal with it." This is more evident when politicians like obama, talk to black WOMEN about black mens behavior and not men, in and outside the church. Its also evident in the music, which,save a few gangster rappers, is geared towards the female audience, who just wants something to shake their ass to.<br /><br />Lastly, black women get more resistance outside of black men, just like black men do when they date non black women. The difference is that black men have been told to "suck it up/ignore your own interests" their whole lives so they keep on living while black women like to yell at the top of mountains about their inter-racial relationships and what black men supposedly are not as well as engage in online attention whoring/hype creation..<br /><br /> The last reason they get more resistance outside is b/c they are getting leftovers from white,asian and hispanic women,ie, as a group will be picked last by the most desire bale non black men, who they really want to be with to outdo white women due to jealousy over who is on the pedestal of american beauty...Kid W/Golden Armsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-9412712623239697942011-05-07T13:44:58.753-07:002011-05-07T13:44:58.753-07:00Good one but.....
Most women who have this materia...Good one but.....<br />Most women who have this materialistic life style indeed support it themselves. Which is your point on black women spending more and saving less.<br />Yes, most women do expect men to buy them things but I don't think that this is any more common among black women.<br /><br />What I got from this is that black women aren't gold diggers but instead pick the wrong men who ultimately can't support a life style.<br /><br />While white and asian women go more for the males who can support the life style.<br /><br />Your point was a good one but I think you failed to mention some key things. Black men and non-black men are two different groups. Both white and asian women the advantage of men who have higher incomes and therefore it doesn't seem so obvious when they have those life styles and men that maintain it.<br /><br />Black women who do date black males get more objection because black males couldn't afford that life style for any woman, white , asian , black or what ever. Im not blaming black men for that but thats what it comes down too.<br />Also Hispanic women are mexican and south american. They come in poor and most don't expect or desire of a life outside of that. Most are immigrants not materialistic. Its an American thing.<br /><br />Black men call it gold digging because they can't afford the lifestyle or help with maintaining that lifestyle. I'm sure if black males where making more money a year and could afford it , it wouldnt be such a problem.<br />Not saying they are wrong but lets state the facts here.<br />btw, since when are black males being pushed into debt by financing black womens life style. Most of the chicks you described buy cheap knockoffs or finance there own life styles. I've yet to hear about black males throwing thousands into a black womans materialistic needs.<br /><br />Its a lose-lose thing for black women in it.<br /><br />If we want to lifestyle of the rich and famous-like other females- we are pushed to date wealthier men who can afford it.<br />But when we over look the blue collar black males who cant support that lifestyle, we are seen as being materialistic and not giving a brotha a chance because of his income.<br /><br />damned if you do and damned if you dont.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-59072206848580478282011-05-07T12:29:15.195-07:002011-05-07T12:29:15.195-07:00You know somethin? You gave me a better perspectiv...You know somethin? You gave me a better perspective on the term gold-digging. I had always thought of it in the sense that you had mentioned (in some ways), but more so in the sense that even if a woman was looking for more out of working class men, because they are in search of the next sucker they could get blood out of a turnip for. Most don't use that term when it comes to women dating or marrying wealthier men, because the men with wealth WILLFULLY give it to them and not the women themselves asking for it. <br />Don't get me wrong, I get what you're saying in terms of that label with wealthy men and the women who go after or get them. But in some ways to me, when a woman sees a hard working class man with nice things, she would automatically assume that he got something, hence she's chasing after him thinking she can get something out of the deal--hence the term of being a gold digger. Honestly, the term can apply both ways whether the man has money or works harder to get it, thus putting on a front in sporting nice things. That's just my take on it.Untouched Jewelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17663191540628765615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-6270418341209295062011-05-07T08:35:47.938-07:002011-05-07T08:35:47.938-07:00Interesting perspective...not sure the validity of...Interesting perspective...not sure the validity of it but it does make you think? This may more a question of socialization, and how the media pushes for these norms into the culture in the context of materialism. Striving to be better and putting expectation of your partner to become better in marriage is true in all cultures, however in this article it is made to be an evil thing. Marriage is the only real relationship that makes you continually put yourself in others shoes and/or manage others expectations and feelings. Keeping in the context of this article, it does not present "other" women that would be seen as supportive and evening loving for investing the energy in the betterment of their partner and subsequently their relationship. As with all scenarios there are rotten apples in the bunch but an article like one this does focus too much on the bad apples, stereotypes. Essentially, this perspective paints a significant amount of women, regardless of race, ethnicity or parental upbringing with a single stroke which is unfair and childish.<br /><br />As i alluded too early, relationships are about managing expectations and as such in these relationship expectations must be managed, altered and even revised as challenges arise.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-63754015548560508922011-05-07T06:34:22.983-07:002011-05-07T06:34:22.983-07:00@Anonymous
Well thats the thing. The BWE bloggers...@Anonymous<br /><br />Well thats the thing. The BWE bloggers would view those men as not being providers and protectors if they didnt get their women those things. Black women like to brag about their spending power but never once mention their saving power. Why transfer all those supposed wealth to another community? They like to talk about wealthy black men and their money going to the white women and the white community but black women send ALL of their money to the East Asian community. So who is the bigger fool? <br /><br />KigaliAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567787243850242789.post-18115786849487644132011-05-07T05:33:43.844-07:002011-05-07T05:33:43.844-07:00I actually somewhat agree with you on this post.
...I actually somewhat agree with you on this post. <br /><br />I know of a fireman who was married to a woman who wanted him to buy her an expensive vehicle. I know of another situation where a woman wanted her security guard boyfriend to buy her a $5,000 ring. <br /><br />I mean if you want a man who can buy you expensive cars, why are you married to a fireman? If you want expensive jewels, why are you engaged to a security guard? <br /><br />These blue collar black men would be paying this stuff off for YEARS to come. <br /><br />If a woman wants these things (and there's nothing wrong with wanting nice things) then she should go after wealthier men who can EASILY afford it. <br /><br />These were all black people, btw.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com